Recent content by Rora47

This topic has come up a few times and I usually get a violent reaction, so let me explain where I am coming from here so you understand my motivation. Growing up I was son of someone who was deeply fearful, wicked, and controlling behaviors which I was challenged by for many years, not as...

Agreed. You have to admire her fortitude despite what has happened to her. I think the fact her husband at one point forbade even mentions of Christianity... to showing up at church... is a big deal, and hopefully an indication that God will bring him to belief one day.

No it isn't sin to submit and help/favor someone who is wicked and controlling. It is only when they ask you to sin (and you must be careful not to confuse sin with something you simply disagree with). Consider Daniel, who worked in favor of King Nebuchadnezzar. He went along with everything the...

That's really not saying anything, though. The commands given in the Bible usually are issues that we already struggle to do, that is why we don't have pointless things like 'get 8 hours of sleep'. It isn't just vain instruction. Saying wives submission is conditionally based on her husbands...

I am 26 and she is 33.

Imagine you and a very meaningful friend are saying goodbye for a very long time. They give you half of a very special heart pendant which fits together with a half that they keep, and you promise to keep them until you one day reunite as a sign of your continued friendship. Years go by...

This is the best advice! I am also an American immigrating to Canada where my wife is from. The sooner you get started, the better. If we did it all over again, we would have had everything collected and the application finished, then pay the fees and send it away right after our wedding.

At best, you are two different people with the same goal and different ways of getting to it.

It may seem like an oversimplification, but the sincerity of your vows. For better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, as long as we both shall live. If you can say that and know that you will honor it when the worst comes, then your marriage can...

Unfortunately, it is easier to tell someone not to and say 'I told you so', than to encourage someone to take a risk and lose your reputation.

There are two answers to this... the answer that sounds good on paper, and the answer that actually works. Most people here are going to give you the first answer. Unsurprisingly, the answer that works is God's instructions... submit to your husband and win him over with your good behavior...

:amen:

I am confused, is your public job to run the apartments? If not, why not just do your job and leave it at that? Don't be his mother. If anything, you can help him get his life on track by helping him get to bed on time. Between those 2 things, I think it will sort itself out.

I initially responded with a lot more but I misread what you meant. I read this again, and to be honest, I don't really know how to express it. To feel more like we are a team who can trust each other would aile me somewhat. It's hard to let someone get close to you when you know they will end...

I was reading through this again and realized I missed a few points. No, not at all. It's hard to explain unless you know what it's like to be isolated with someone who doesnt use an anchor of reasonable-ness. Eventually your own sense of reason starts to feel like it's leaking out your ears...