• Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.

  • CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
  • We hope the site problems here are now solved, however, if you still have any issues, please start a ticket in Contact Us

Recent content by Rols

  1. R

    I must be a fool...

    It doesn't appear to me that the girl is ready to change. There is absolutely no guarantee that one day when you married she won't cheat on you then. Hopefully with all this going on, I really hope marriage is the last thing on your mind. YOu have a choice to make, and I would say leave this...
  2. R

    Diamond Rings

    On the diamond issue, Mbams, I work on conflict resolution in West Africa, particularly on armed conflict fuelled by the diamond trade in Liberia and Sierra Leone, it's part of my current job, and there is an international diamond certification scheme for rough diamonds, called the Kimberely...
  3. R

    what are the limits?

    Romans 14:23 says this: But the man who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin. The Amplified Version (AMP): But the man who has doubts (misgivings, an uneasy conscience) about eating, and then...
  4. R

    He finally proposed

    THANKS GUYS!!!!!! :D
  5. R

    He finally proposed

    He Finally proposed, when and where I least expected!!! Some of you might remember the thread I pasted titled 'Can't wait -Courting for too long?' Friday February 27th, 2004 at Brussels National airport arrival lounge. Since I am used to writing stories, I wrote a short anecdote about how...
  6. R

    Physical Attraction with love sight.

    This is not to say that there is no physical attraction in relationships and that love is all. Part of my loving my boyfriend is because I am actually physically (chemistry, or whatever they call it these days) attracted to him, otherwise I wouldn't be with him. A bit of both really!
  7. R

    Physical Attraction with love sight.

    Dave, I think what she is trying to say is that is love at first sight and physcial instant attraction possible, even if a couple eventually and genuinely fall in love later? I think it is possible for it to be initially physical attraction or 'love at first sight', though I think at first...
  8. R

    Is this a silly question?

    I think, you really need to think about where this relationship heading if you are in it for marriage, then you really need to step back and seek God's face on the issue. The more you get involved the harder it will become, because you have no guarantee that he will eventually become a...
  9. R

    Father's role

    Just wondering, a friend of mine was asking me, if he had to ask his girlfriend's dad first before proposing marriage to her? Would it make a difference if he did not?
  10. R

    Need prayer and advice for girlfriend

    Dear Eccp19, The passage below is from the book of 1 Corinthians 3:6-7, when it comes to turning hearts to Christ, especially with your girlfriend, I just want to encourage you through what Paul says in his letter to the Corinthians: 6'I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God made it...
  11. R

    Courting vs Dating

    Hey I have a few thougts on this dating vs. courting issue. I don't think the there is a 'vs.' between the two really, it is not a dichotomy. The real issue is entering a relationship that will glorify God i.e pleasing God in the way we conduct our relationships!!!!!!!!!! But anyway for the sake...
  12. R

    Praying together....

    Yes my boyf and I still pray to ether, but now sometimes mostly over the phone. I think praying together is a great idea (where two or three agree...), it kinda draws each person closer to God and to each other. However a while ago, there was one problem I had with prayin with my boyf of 3...
  13. R

    Can't wait - Courting for too long?

    What would also be quite interesting inspite of all this talk is whether peoples views would have changed a few years down the line or even sooner, when everyone in this forum is married. As much as the Word of God is the foundation on which we are to build our hopes, dreams and live...
  14. R

    Can't wait - Courting for too long?

    Very well said Jill!!!! You know that our best guide is to do what Jesus would have done, that is 'servant leadership'. Ever heard the saying that the best leaders are those who know how to follow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Of course if your other-half did not recognise your competence, then it woudl be...
  15. R

    Attraction to other races

    Msjones 21, I think you don't need to worry about your attraction to Chinese men per se. Reading your post it appears to me that there may be a deeper issue, and that you really need to question what this attraction is, the Chinese men you do come across do you genuinely fall in love with them...