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Recent content by RogerVW

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    Father Engaged 4 Months After Mother's Death

    Craft175, I am so sorry for your family's loss AND the uncomfortable situation you are in. I do agree with footballmommy that it's a good idea to keep communication line open. I know four months is not a lot of time to grieve (I lost my fiance' a little over four months ago) and we all need...
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    anyone have any insight?

    Razzel, You and your family are in my prayers. Mostly, as for myself, I ask God for peace for you. I think it is beyond us to understand His plan and why these tragedies happen but if we can have peace we can go on. I pray that your family will prevail and become stronger, stronger in faith...
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    Nothing helps with the loss of my husband

    Great comments all! I send my understanding, prayers and sympathy to those who have joined lately. I agree that the pain does not seem to go away (nor does the love). In my random thoughts I was wondering IF the more love you shared the greater the pain?..I guess that depends on your perspective...
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    Newbie

    My condolances Godgirl, I hope you find some solace and comfort here..pretty new here myself, just about 3 months. Everyday I pray for God to help me through the day and in my head I know He is with me and always has been but my heart hasn't caught up enough to feel the joy that knowledge...
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    7 Months Tomorrow.

    Don, You have my deepest sympathy and an immediate prayer that God, who knows your pain and suffering, will continue to be with you and to ease your pain and give you peace! I understand your loss, having lost my fiance' three months ago. There are still times I am angry at everything including...
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    It Is Well

    Well I did get a dozen roses and wrote a letter to leave graveside...it was a tough tough day. I turned off my phone and went out in the woods where I knew I wouldn't be bothered. Wish I could say it made things easier or better or something , it was just sad and seems to have put me into a funk...
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    It Is Well

    Good ideas. I do think I will take some roses to put on her grave and say a few prayers. I'm not so good at the talking part but I do like to write. I have left many letters and cards..it seems to help me. And finding scripture to add would be a great investment of time. Thanks
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    It Is Well

    Thanks for the reassurance "Kindness" and sharing your hunch. I pray you are right and that I have the courage and wisdom to recognize when God answers my prayers. Mostly these days I pray for peace in my heart ( I don't wish so much to understand as I once thought). This week is my beloved's...
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    Lost my mom

    marce30, I am so sorry for your loss! I think you will find there are lots on people here who can understand what you are going through. I know, I for one do not have the answers you seek but I am willing to listen.. for answers please go to God. I think it's ok to tell Him you are mad and to...
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    anyone have any insight?

    "so many times I feel like he is the blessed one, the favored one, because he got to go home...but that doesn't stop me from missing him" (razzel) I know what you mean and I sometimes feel guilty about that. Being stuck here on this earth with pain and grief is difficult. "I never want any...
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    Dating after widowhood

    I know I have only been alone a short while, 2 months, and I know it is way to soon to consider dating (wouldn't want to "inflict" myself and my sorrows on anyone at this point) BUT I can't say I haven't thought about it..heck my beloved and I had that converstion. She started to give me a list...
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    Still can't believe this has happened

    My heart goes out to you, being alone stinks! I know I have only started but the weekends are so hard..I ended up at her grave last night about 10 PM to talk, cry and leave an old card that I had written with so many of my recent thoughts on. I suppose that way I have at least a one sided...
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    Great Grandmother

    When my Dad died in 2000 I did not grieve until 2003 when I was going through divorce..I didn't realize I hadn't until I went to counciling. I let a busy life get in the way but there it was. I don't know if it was more difficult because I had let it go so long and I wrapped it together with...
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    Still can't believe this has happened

    corno12, I am so sorry for you, I understand what you are going through having lost my fiance about 8 weeks ago. I know what it feels like to be lonely and to think that there is/was only one person who can ease that pain. It is a one day at a time affair, every morning now I ask God to be with...
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    anyone have any insight?

    That is NOT my God! He is a loving god, not one who arbitrarily punishes us. I say arbitrary because after all we are all sinners, and to punish one but not all is arbitrary. We have all done many things wrong and the "punishment" is seperation from God but in His love He sent His son to die for...