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Recent content by RobertVillager

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    Lust / Looking at other women...

    Indeed, exactly what I mean, it really doesn’t go any further than “wow that’s an attractive woman” but it’s still a fight to not look.
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    Lust / Looking at other women...

    I wouldn’t say my wife isn’t enough for me. I just mean when an attractive female walks by, it’s difficult to not look. It’s not like I want to track them down and start having dirty thoughts lol; but I mean the temptation to even just lock eyes with them or just “check them out” is always there.
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    Lust / Looking at other women...

    Do we ALL still struggle in this area? You would think that once we get saved that our “nature” would change to where we don’t still have those same desires as before. I abstain from watching porn and / or masturbating but I have slipped and messed up several times. But what I’m seeming to...
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    Please help me.

    Thank all of you for taking the time to respond and pray for my situation. I may tend to over spiritualize things but at the end of the day that’s what I think this is. We were all in when we got saved and we were so favored and blessed. The further both of us have drifted away from God the more...
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    Please help me.

    No I really don’t think any of that is the case. I think she really just had a change of heart about everything. I think she went on vacation and had 0 responsibilities and came back to real life and wants to run away from it all.
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    Please help me.

    I wish I knew lol. There’s mornings where she’s telling me how much she loves me and is hugging and kissing me; and then that same night I’ll go to hug her and she will act like I shouldn’t be and telling me she wants me to remember she still plans on leaving me. Theres times where she kisses me...
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    Please help me.

    The reasons she wants to leave are for one we handle conflict differently. She wants to avoid it at all cost while I believe a simple conversation can fix it and sometimes it creates the friction of me trying to force her to deal with / talk about an issue. Even if I let something go and try...
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    Please help me.

    It sounds like you’re view of Christianity is well; your view. Not to change the subject but can I ask you if you have any Godly counsel in your life such as a pastor, somebody whose descipled you, a church home, or even a church at all? I just would like a scope of who I’m receiving advice...
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    Please help me.

    I mean it’s simple things sometimes. I’ll give a specific example of something recently. She asked what my goals are at my job and I told her I don’t really have long term goals, I had a rough year last year so I want to focus on just being a good employee before I worry about the future, and I...
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    Please help me.

    Why is it “when it serves me to see it differently”? I don’t care how something serves me lol I care about what the truth is. I’m not trying to rationalize or justify doing the wrong thing and I won’t want to in the future either. I’m concerned with the truth of the matter, not just with making...
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    Please help me.

    I didn’t say anything close to her not being a real believer because she’s leaving me. I’m not sure how you got that. Let me state it plainly; my wife is going to divorce me. The Bible has a lot to say about not getting divorced and not getting remarried. There’s no infidelity, there’s no abuse...
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    Please help me.

    And the main point of the post is; if she divorces me where does that leave me? The Bible says if an unbeliever wants to leave to let them. So what if she isn’t a genuine believer. I have reasons to believe she might not be; but I also could just be rationalizing. I don’t mean for this post to...
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    Please help me.

    I’ve never said something like this to her. But I have said I think the way I think because of my faith. I’m devoted to our marriage because of my faith, I don’t complain about serving in the church because of my faith, I’m grateful for where we are in life because of my faith, I have great hope...
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    Please help me.

    She doesn’t like to deal with any conflict. When there’s conflict; I think a simple conversation can fix it; she tells me to shut up and leave her alone. If I let the problem rest for a day; and bring it back up; she does the same thing again. I’ve tried different methods of approaching her...
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    Please help me.

    Well yeah one thing that she says that makes me feel like she’s falling away from God is “I’m falling away from God” lol. She also said last night that “I’ll get back on that jesus stuff after I leave you”