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Recent content by rivulet

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    Discussion: New rule - homosexuality & same sex marriage

    ... Except it's legally called marriage...
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    Discussion: New rule - homosexuality & same sex marriage

    I appreciate that CF is making an effort. However, it still feels prejudicial.
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    Discussion: New rule - homosexuality & same sex marriage

    I wonder if CF would consider either, (a) removing the designation of "married" in the profile all together; or (b) ask all eligible members (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) to choose the "Committed Relationship" instead of "married" or remove the option; or (c) allow there to be two...
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    Discussion: New rule - homosexuality & same sex marriage

    And I'm also wondering if the forum recognizes heterosexual marriages of other religions (Muslim, Atheist, Hindu.. Etc) to be blessed by God even though their marriage was sanctified under a false diety and under a false religion?
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    Discussion: New rule - homosexuality & same sex marriage

    So... The designation of "committed relationship" over "married" is because of a denominational belief but not all churches believe that Same Sex Marriages are illegitimate in the eyes of God... Are we making a denominational distinction? If someone is gay chooses "married" instead "committed...
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    Miscarriage is still hurtful (maybe more hurtful) than the inability to conceive at all. I can't imagine losing my baby...
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    It does feel a bit dehumanizing. It does feel good to know that I'm not alone in feeling like less of a person. And clearly, there are many people here on CF who understand the pain of being childless.
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    What a horrible thing to say to someone! Gee. A friend of mine was just telling me that she miscarried her fourth child and she was saying, "it wasn't the right time.. And we really shouldn't be having more children..." and I had to stop her and just say, "You don't need to minimize your...
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    No one has ever said this to us but I can see how it would be bothersome. A similar thing happened to us with our neighbors. They found out how long we've been married and said, "You've l had your fun for 5 years. It's time for you two to start having children." it bothered me a lot and I...
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    I'm certainly not bitter at God: I don't appreciate the assumption. The points I posted ARE NOT HELPFUL even though people think they are. I'm just giving you a heads up before you meet someone who is infertile and say one of these things. Just because I feel sad about not being able to have a...
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    I kind of regret posting this thread.
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    Honestly, all I want is for my friends and family to support me without minimizing my pain as "not that big of a deal" when it is a HUGE deal to me.
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    Of course it's toxic thinking. I am just being honest.
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    Thank you. :) It means a lot to me. Wow. That is an incredibly sad story. I won't say anything like that CAN'T happen to us but I don't think we have that much disregard for each other's feelings. It feels like I'm dirty though; as if there is something wrong with me and everyone can see...
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    Infertility: Unhelpful Comments

    Sure, you're right. I haven't posted anything about what should be said. A statement of prayer and support, "we'll be praying for you." "Let me know if you ever need to talk." "If you feel comfortable, Keep me updated." We understand that God is the giver of life, so please beseech him on...