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Recent content by Richard859

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    Going Away and Anxiety

    Will be praying for a safe trip, and good health for you and all your family, those here and those soon to be here.
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    Working My Program Works

    This is exactly what i want to do, working with pregnant addicted women coming in off the street. Its a christian atmosphere too, verses secular. :scratch: Not sure what to do..... That's an interesting statement. I would ask is that the best way God can use you right now? That might clarify...
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    Meltdown the other night---Very Long

    I read this too, and just thought wow lot of stuff there. It never ceases to amaze me how painful family issues that happened decades ago will always continually be brought back up, and trigger the same level of emotions that they originally did. The word "expectations" jumped out at me. Is...
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    Concern at Work

    I agree with Bob get it out, be honest, and discuss this with your sponsor. There's a lot of what if's in this situation. I myself would be afraid of a passenger I was transporting dropping (as in leaving it) something in my car, then I get pulled over, or the passenger has a bottle or two...
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    How i quit

    That is a powerful testimony that you need to share to those who are in the same battle. The Holy Spirit is what delivered me from dual addictions. It wasn't as immediate as your experience, probably since the roots were much deeper as in years using, but over the course of a few weeks I too...
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    The moment of clarity

    From my experiences when we enable we are doing what we think, and feel, is right. Its our God given nature to want to care for another, to protect that person. Except here everything is backwards what an enabler thinks is the right thing to do is the exact wrong thing. The enabler is only...
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    The moment of clarity

    We ( I use we because there's a lot of people who care for her) are patiently praying for her, and her whole family, her five year old, her brother (a binge drinker), her mother, and her second husband (who also drinks). I keep in touch with people from the agency, for a few weeks I worked for...
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    The moment of clarity

    Thankfully it wasn't a treatment environment, just providing services to the elderly. There was serious liability while driving the county vehicle under the influence. If I'm ever deposed through a lawsuit I'll be happy to point out that this was an ongoing issue that no one wanted to discuss...
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    The moment of clarity

    That is so funny that you brought up the code. I followed it to the letter, and still created a fire storm. Before I said word one I consulted with my program coordinator from school, who got his BSW in 1973 and is now a PhD. He said wait until the last day, and gave me the reasons why, which...
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    The moment of clarity

    Any addiction is like a smoldering fire that in time, and the right circumstances, will erupt and destroy that person and the relationships around that person. As a Christian there are times when I see someones life getting progressively worse, as it always will with this disease, that I see...
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    The moment of clarity

    Thanks for the replies, your openness. If I can draw a thread it would be that life wasn't working, and something external reflected the need for change. I've been reading these posts for a while now, and was more than surprised to find out that there were fellow social workers here; I...
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    The moment of clarity

    Open question(s): What did it take to finally surrender and take action? How did you then begin to view people around you especially those who were part of your system of enabling (whether through manipulation or fear) and those who wouldn't play the role of enabler?
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