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Recent content by Progressing Pilgrim

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    Prayer for wisdom and courage

    I would like to ask for prayer for discernment about what God wants me to do, and also the courage to do whatever it is that He does want me to do. There is something I wonder if I'm supposed to do, but I'm rather afraid to do it and I don't know if it's something I'm supposed to do anyway.
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    I constantly regret not saving myself for the marriage

    That's debatable, depending on what you mean here. If we are to be like Christ then we should forgive and avoid looking down on others for their past sins. I don't know if any Christian is really entitled to reject anyone else for their past unless they are unrepentant. But we aren't perfect...
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    Male Accountability Thread

    Hello brothers! I struggled with inappropriate content, fetishes (one in particular), and masturbation along with fantasies since I was 12 or 13. When I was 25 I surrendered my life to Christ, and other than once or twice in the early days I have been mostly free of this addiction for over a...
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    Anyone else struggle with being lonely but also wanting to be single?

    It's an ongoing struggle for me anymore. I don't like dating. Marriage doesn't sound particularly attractive to me. But I get lonely anyway. Part of me really wants female companionship, and part of me just wants to be free. At 36, I feel like if I'm not proactively pursuing a relationship, I'm...
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    Mantras, autosuggestion, and James 4

    About hypnosis, alcoholism, and drug abuse - not sure if I agree, but I'm not an expert. What makes you say this? About uncharted waters and the realm of the mind - true, but so can exploring the world and talking to strangers, but that doesn't mean we should stay home all the time.
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    Mantras, autosuggestion, and James 4

    James chapter 4, verses 13-17 say: "13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while...
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    Complaint Anxiety

    lol... I just got back from meeting with the department chair. Apparently, someone had complained that a Bible had been placed in their mailbox with my name on it. I didn’t know anything about that, but I pointed out that I had put flyers trying to raise interest in a Bible study in mailboxes –...
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    Complaint Anxiety

    My anxiety hasn't been this bad for a while. I'm on medication, but actually I was running low and was cutting back earlier this week. Also, while I have conquered a lot of fears (public speaking, for example), there are others that are still big challenges. Talking to a classroom full of...
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    Complaint Anxiety

    Thanks. I have both OCD and social anxiety. My level of anxiety probably isn't justified, but I have felt crushed by it this afternoon and evening. I've been on the couch for a while, and hardly feel like moving. I have to meet with the department chair tomorrow morning, and it looks as though...
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    Complaint Anxiety

    Hi all, I haven't been this anxious for a while. I'm a PhD student and a teaching assistant. I got a message today from my boss/department chair wanting to meet with me, in person, because there had been a complaint. I don't have any other information than that. I don't know what I might have...
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    Should a christian woman wear a bikini?

    Did I sound angry? I don't want to come across that way. But it has been a long day and I'm really tired. I honestly don't remember if I was angry when I posted that. I hope not. I was very possibly annoyed - but not with you personally. On that note, it's off to bed for me!
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    Should a christian woman wear a bikini?

    Actually, I was more concerned with having sounded belittling, not really in restating the question. It was part apology. I don't think I meant the earlier post to sound that way.
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    Should a christian woman wear a bikini?

    Actually, I don't see how that was belittling. You said that almost naked (a bikini) is OK, but naked is not. If we are to get at a definition of modesty, we should try to figure out why nakedness is immodest. The obvious answer is genitals, but even there context plays a role. Even nudity is...
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    Should a christian woman wear a bikini?

    So, to elucidate, I say that we have three views on modesty. 1) Modesty is how I feel about myself 2)Modesty is about how others feel around me 3)Modesty is related to being appropriate in context Does this sound correct?
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    Should a christian woman wear a bikini?

    I didn't mean it to be belittling. I meant it literally. The question was WHY? But then you answered it anyway. It's context, for you.