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Recent content by PegMonkey

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    hopeless

    I took the pills for one day again. and then quit them. Im not anything right now. Ill just stay off of them. for now. Ive confirmed it , the really aren't good for me. Im living on the opposite side of Canada from my pyciatrist and he wasn't aware that i got a refill at that pharmacy down here...
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    hopeless

    Thanks for the advice, im not sure what im going to do, cause i was only on it for two days, then went off, but he didnt even tell me to go on in the first place, i just had a breakdown and went to the pharmacist and they had a refill there, he doesnt even know i was on it, then i was off for a...
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    hopeless

    I know you can't medicate a dark night of the soul, but im tired of going through stuff. Im just tired of this. I have nightmares nearly everynight so its not like i can sleep off a day, and start over. I just started to taking my meds today because i couldn't cope, i can't bear the thought to...
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    ignorant family members

    how do I explain to extended family members about my BPD? They think I am just immature, screwed up or just have bad behavior. people think i can just 'stop' acting a certain way, as if im just purposing behaving that way to hurt others and be destructive. How do i avoid getting hurt by all the...
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    kids and BPD

    Sincerely and humbly I say"i guess you have a remarkable daughter then"
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    kids and BPD

    I never really hit my kids, just a little rough. anyways i know im doing everything perfect, but im under alot of stress and am trying my best. I doubt even the best of the best mother hasn't let out a belt at her kids at least once.
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    kids and BPD

    Yes i was talking about your daughter above.
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    kids and BPD

    shes never lost her temper with them because she works during the day and isn't around them alot. as well as i highly doubt that her or her husband haven't lost it at least once. they must be on some good calming meds. either that or their kids are so docile they just sit there and dont do...
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    Marriage dependency

    He got depressed because his world came crashing down because of an addiction, the depth and severity of it came to light. There was alot of stress and fighting. He had been lieing and decieving me for our whole marriage. so he had to leave his schooling because of the stress.And he was an...
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    Marriage dependency

    I found this book the other day at Value Village, I plan to read it soon. Thanks.
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    Marriage dependency

    Before my husband left he got depression and was pretty much catatonic, all he could say was 'i dont know', to every question. So then the roles were reversed, I made breakfast, got up with the kids in the morning, made meals, And i just ended up despising him , and resenting him. When he...
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    Brain Scans Clarify BPD

    Joanne- Sorry if I came off defensive. or on edge . thanks for being so gracious in your reply. I thought that you didn't have BPd, because you refer to "people with BPD" but you dont talk about yourself. And i felt kind of upset, because everyone claims to be an expert, and talks about...
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    Brain Scans Clarify BPD

    I just think the whole "its not your fault" mantra in this generation is straight from the devil. Just cause BPD makes you more prone to anger and rage, ...the bible says to be angry but sin not. So even though you have mental issues doesn't mean sinning is okay. But know that God doesn't...
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    Brain Scans Clarify BPD

    You dont have BPD do you? anyways, it may not be our fault that we developed BPD, but it is our responsibility to do something about it. We are not victoms. And as long as we think we are trapped, or victoms, thats when we can justify our negative behavior. It may be difficult to manage...
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    Do Borderlines see their actions as abusive?

    I believe there is a spectrum of symptoms, soft and hard symptoms. (I was told this by my therapists) She told me that I was on the soft side of the symptoms, because I knew that things weren't right, that I was doing wrong, and wanted to change. And had remorse. people with hard symptoms on...