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Recent content by Oblivious

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    Woman's march...what do they want?

    I am also a woman and found the March, the overall attitudes, and the "hats" and "costumes" worn by some to be absolutely disgusting. Do women realize how good we have it in this country??? What rights are we exactly lacking? We live in a very sad society and I'm still amazed that the Lord...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    Thank you for saying that. I kind of wish it was my fault, then at least I could fix things. Yes, I'm not too jazzed about my current job, but hey, no complaints in this economy - I'm just happy to be employed. We both probably need help in that department. I'm trying but it's I struggle...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    No. He was traveling all week except for Saturday and I had an obligation that day and wasn't home. <sigh> He's gone this week too but he have plans this weekend so hopefully the opportunity will present itself. Thank you very much. :)
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    I agree. :( [quote=sdmsanjose] I hope that is the only reason as that can be fixed! I hope so.
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    Thank you for the response. That's a very interesting way of looking at the situation. The thing is, honestly, he's never been happy at any job he's had. He's gotten everything he's wanted as far as promotions/job titles short of becoming a VP of a company (which I'm sure still wouldn't make him...
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    Is techno evil? Can Christians listen to it?

    I'm a HUGE Trance fan (which has a lot of music with a lot of emotion). I also love Techno. Honestly, a lot of the techno/trance I listen to doesn't even have lyrics. I guess it all comes down to what effect the Techno or any music for that matter has on your life as a Christian. I think a lot...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    I think a good question for me to ask him is "what does he really want out of life?". He is clearly not happy now. His work is all consuming of him and he finally admitted to me that he does not like his new job, which I have deduced was the case. As I have mentioned earlier in this thread when...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    No, I haven't gotten that impression from anyone here. I guess it's normal to feel as though I did something as I've always been pretty hard on myself. But I really need to "woman-up" and realize that it isn't my fault. Yeah, the 10 year thing is odd - I don't get it. Oh, and no, we don't...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    Interesting. I've noticed I really have reverted back to the way I used to be before I was married - somewhat independent, and very capable of taking care of things. That said, he's so busy that it's almost like I'd rather do it myself then bother him with and have him get grumpy (which...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    No need to apologize, infidelity was the first thing I thought of too. I have asked him several times and he says no so all I can do is take him at his word. If he really wanted to end things all he'd have to do is say yes and he knows I'd be history. I won't tolerate cheating. Yeah...
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    Need Some Advice, Please...

    I've been a member of this forum for many years, and I have never asked for advice, definitely not marriage advice until now. I am a very private person but got some news last week and don't know what to do with it, so I would greatly appreciate some insight. We just celebrated our 11th...
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    Compound Lifts

    Thanks and I've actually taken your advice and have done a couple of sessions with a Personal Trainer. :) We've done squats, benched, and deadlifts so I can get the form down. My last session is Thursday in which he's going to give me a workout plan so I can get started. Thanks for the...
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    Compound Lifts

    I've had very respectable gains to this point doing just isolation exercises. They definitely have their place e.g. targeting specific muscles groups. Also, some of us don't have a full blown gym and the associated equipment readily available to us. So I have made due with what equipment I...
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    Compound Lifts

    For the purposes of this thread compound lifts would be pretty much anything involving a barbell - deadlifts, squats, military press, bench press, etc. I have totally hit a plateau with my workouts. It seems like I'm just maintaining what muscle I have rather than gaining and getting...
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    Nail Polish Freaks...Come out and list your collection.

    I actually like to refer to myself as a Nail Polish Hoarder. :D Okay, maybe it's not that bad. I'm not lazy to list them all, but I mostly have OPI polishes and have about 25 or so bottles.