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Recent content by Nig

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    Dating is a sin- just be friends till your married, no need to complicate...

    So has 1 Corinthians 36 been discussed here? But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry. What do you think acting improperly towards his virgin is? Fair...
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    Dating is a sin- just be friends till your married, no need to complicate...

    There has got to be a test of Christ likeness. I’ve often wondered how Jesus managed to be so close to women in His walk on earth and still remain dignified and honouring. Maybe something to do with the societal rules of the day that allowed Him to navigate those potential crushes that other...
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    Dating is a sin- just be friends till your married, no need to complicate...

    Anyone seen the film the intouchables. Notice that he was in a wheelchair with no ability to have physical touch but he was dictating letters to a lady friend. I think he said when you don’t have the your body you need to cultivate a different stimulation.
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    Dating is a sin- just be friends till your married, no need to complicate...

    I was happy as a man to have in intense relationship with a woman in the absence of the physical. Funnily enough I kissed my wife after we got engaged after she pestered me. It’s not always the bloke putting the pressure on. I had intended to wait till the day we got married. It should be...
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    Found you both helpful.... really....
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    You know they tell me that don’t worry about if your children fight; it’s the intensity of the relationship that matters
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    Walk To Emmaus - anyone done it before?

    Mostly got some good friends out of it that I can talk to openly about what’s going on in my life. Went on my walk in 2012 and been back on team several times in several different rolls. Good refresher Christianity 101. You get to hear people talk frankly about their faith; particularly lay people.
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    The issue here is narcissistic people are incapable of truth in their inward parts and lying long term doesn’t raise any issues. A pedo is capable of marrying someone for the purpose of having a child that they can later abuse. Having no conscience is no issue to some people so having a captive...
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    I find it difficult to be around narcisists as I recognise I'm still somewhat narcisistic and selfish myself. Narcisism is at its core self love and through self seeking it seeks its own love and happiness and wellbeing at the expense of others but at various deceptive levels and extremes...
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    I think the lines are often not clear as the narcissist will abuse our attachments to clear teachings of Jesus to get what they want. The narcissist can be superficially charming; it’s not a relationship where’s honesty is valued and you know where you stand. Complicated, and they will abuse and...
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    Dating is a sin- just be friends till your married, no need to complicate...

    So fresh on my mind but I’ve been impacted by an old relationship that wasn’t dating. I feel I have a precautionary tale to tell. I’ve had in my life 3 girlfriends that I’ve dated. I’ve only kissed 2 of them including my wife so I’d like to tell a story. Girlfriend number 1. We had a good...
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    this speaks to me in regards to the fact that I’ve lived in and practiced the same myself and when engaging with them I’m tempted to function in their bickering manipulative ways.
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    I have (I believe)a narcissist as an in law so I have had to strengthen boundaries tighter than I would like and be much more forward in expressing myself than I’m normally comfortable with. I do find with much interaction you get trapped by them publicly so better off biting my tongue.
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    I’m personally looking for the spare hour and a half of quiet so I can look; read the bullet points. Time is hard to find..... (I know the post wasn’t directed at me....)
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    What to do with narcissistic people

    I’m probably not aware of the rarity or otherwise of clinical narcissism; my observations are of behaviour sets of both myself and other individuals that I am in or have had contact with. I believe that the legalistic church environment that I was once involved in was either a breeding ground...