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Recent content by Nico

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    Question about talking with your spouse

    I, admittedly, am not currently working. I'm a student and stay home all day writing my thesis..... I do probably need to re-adjust some expectations, and not expect great conversations after a long work day (and he works hard, long hours). The thing that's tugging at me is the fact that...
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    Question about talking with your spouse

    Again, I really appreciate all of the thoughtful insight here. I have shared with him my concern over our lack of discourse, but have not gone into great detail about it--i.e. how important it is to me and why. We had a 5 second conversation about it last night. I had expressed my desire to...
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    Question about talking with your spouse

    Thanks so much for all the thoughtful replies. The more I think about it, the more I realize that discourse is how I measure intimacy. I think it's a dealbreaker thing for me. One thing that's great about him is that he's a fantastic listener. But so far, the sustained discourse is...
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    Question about talking with your spouse

    I'm not married, but I'm dating and I'm troubled by something in our relationship. I'm a talker--not a chatter or a mindless gabber, but I'm someone who bonds through talking with another person. Such talking can range from the banal to the profound, and that's how I sense a connectivity...
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    do you ever get tired of your SO?

    i'm not sure that getting sick of spending constant time w/your SO (a full non-stop 3 days) is reflective of a bad marriage. when you're married you're not spending every second together. i think "me" time is very important. it's important in a marriage as well (for some it's a little more...
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    for those looking for less expensive dress options...

    did you know that jcrew has an on-line wedding shop? most are in the $300-ish range, all are under $2,000.... just options in case you're looking. i think some are pretty... http://www.jcrew.com/ms/weddingshop/splash.jhtml?_requestid=93737
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    Messiness and Disorganization!

    i, too, am messy to a fault. my boyfriend is anal about how neat he is. there are a few concerns about how we will live together when we're married, but we're figuring it out as we go along. can you afford help? even if it is just 2 x's a week. usually cleaning ladies can be found at quite...
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    Project Runway???

    at first i wasn't sure who i thought would win....i loved daniel v. all through the show, but i didn't think this final collection was all that strong. parts of santino's collection were really great. i knew, when they were all being critiqued that chloe would win, and i thought it was the...
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    Project Runway???

    i don't really post here, so forgive the intrusion, but does anyone here watch the fantastic show, project runway?
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    baby shower ideas

    i'm going to a shower (baby's a girl, i believe) got any gift ideas? what would be your dream gift list. i'd actually prefer not to do clothes since the couple owns a baby clothes store....
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    My First Fast

    I'm starting my first fast today. I think it's kinda similar to the daniel's fast--i'm only eating fruit and veggies-for 5 days. Anyway. I'm doing this for a variety of reasons: 1. I've felt a gap between me and God, especialy recently 2. I struggle with self-control issues; a fruit of the...
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    My First Fast

    I'm starting my first fast today. I think it's kinda similar to the daniel's fast--i'm only eating fruit and veggies-for 5 days. Anyway. I'm doing this for a variety of reasons: 1. I've felt a gap between me and God, especialy recently 2. I struggle with self-control issues; a fruit of...
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    Running a household in harmony with Creation

    i think that we are to be stewards of all that is given to us, that includes the natural resources. God will at one day destroy the earth, but that is up to Him to do, not us. in the meantime we are to take what He has given us and dilegently use it for good--nourishing ourselves and our...
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    Running a household in harmony with Creation

    oh, i just thought of another thing. in minneapolis there's this artist, mel chin. he worked w/a scientist from MIT who had found a plant that takes the waste metal material that is deposited by pollution into the earth and through its "system" (sorry, don't know all the scientific facts) it...
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    Running a household in harmony with Creation

    actually one needs to count cost over long term than just initial cost. often people assume that eco-friendly/aware, sustainable things are just too costly. quite frankly they're too costly not to consider. perhaps ripping up all the sidewalks and replacing them with an new kinder material...