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Recent content by NeedHelp11

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    Overcoming Deep Scars

    thanx for all the replys. appreciate all of them
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    Overcoming Deep Scars

    thanx for the recommendation. i blame myself for things like that as well
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    Overcoming Deep Scars

    sorry to hear that. i know that it wont change what you've been through having him locked up and some things you cant 'just get over' ever. It sounds like you have come a long way in sorting things out though, so well done. Further than me anyway
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    Overcoming Deep Scars

    i suppose it is, its one im thinking a bit about but im not sure. I know that it would absolutely enrage people if i tried to get counselling. most of the abuse is everything being my fault and me not being strong enough to take that constant hate. Just stopping trying to control everything in...
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    Struggling to find me in this mess

    im in no position to give advice on life i wonder though why it started and how things will be now if it has stopped. I can only think there must have been a reason and i really think someone needs to drag that reason out of him for his own good, then maybe for yours as well. In the long run...
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    Friend is Drinking Alot

    hows it going, ok? you sound kinda angry
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    Overcoming Deep Scars

    Anyone have any thoughts or ideas on ways to try and remove major psychological damage done during chidhood. Sometimes things you don even realise are there, that have become so natural, show up in your behaviour and life to other people. To you it was normal behaviour, to someone else it was...
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    A question

    well i have been abused emotionally and verbally. its nice that you want to help him. if it has been going on for a long time, the wounds are going to be very, very deep, much deeper than you can probably imagine. The trauma depends on how severe it was i guess. Take your time, let him know...
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    Could use advice,...

    Ok that was a negative reaction, he heard your concerns and only became meaner. That tells me that he is doing it deliberately to hurt you which is not good at all. He may never change. Thats not really the way to be a father. He is the one in the wrong here in my opinion. He will possibly try...
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    Friend is Drinking Alot

    I have a friend who has been through alot, some things that upset her etc. sexual assault, difficult step mum etc. She has been drinking quite heavily, maybe a bottle of spirit an evening, possibly more. Im interested in what it is that it gives her, why she does it and whether there might be...
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    Emotional Abuse

    sequins, you put that into words well. my experiences are very similar and its nice to know im not alone.
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    Emotional Abuse

    yea, same here. Life doesnt make sense because of it
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    Emotional Abuse

    yea i suffer from some really nasty abuse and manipulative behaviour. Ive got to a point where i realise there is nothing i can do which is quite depressing, the only thing i have managed, eventualy is to get out, to university. I cant really join in with everyone else but at least there is no...
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    For those who have been through

    I am very similar to you i understand what you are describing, but how do i change? i dont understand how you changed?