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Recent content by ManInTheBox

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    Still no emotion.....What now?

    I somehow missed quite a few postings before I posted my last reply. I'll try to answer some of the questions very quickly that I missed. First of all I think I must not have stated that my wife does not withold sex from me. She is pretty good about that. Sex is not what I am missing. I am...
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    Still no emotion.....What now?

    Sorry I took so long to answer your questions. My wife and I were able to check out a version of "The Five Love Languages" that is used in teaching classes for couples. It had a VHS tape in it and a work book included besides the book itself. We watched the tape together and filled out the...
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    no relationship with husband

    Lorie, First of all you did the right thing by coming to a Christian forum to ask for advice. Most people in your shoes would probalby just do what they think THEY wanted and not care about what is right and what is wrong. I think you already know that marrying somone you didn't love wasn't...
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    Still no emotion.....What now?

    I really didn't have an ulterior motive for buying the book. Someone here recommended it and it took me a few days to talk myself into getting the book. I didn't really think it would apply to our situation before I read it. Once I started reading the book however I did get excited and I did...
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    Still no emotion.....What now?

    It doesn't make any difference if I do MANY MANY acts of service for her or none. My doing acts of service for her does make her happy, and I truley enjoy doing them for her and continue to do them regardless. She just doesn't do any of the Physical touch things for me because she doesn't want...
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    Still no emotion.....What now?

    There were alot of good questions asked in response to my post and I'll try to answer them all. First of all I did use the word "emotion" instead of affection.... what I meant was AFFECTION I used the wrong word. I have let her know many times that I really want her to speak my love language...
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    Still no emotion.....What now?

    Many moths ago I posted in this forum that I did not feel loved by my wife. Several people recommended a book called "The Five Love Languages". I ordered the book and read it and my wife was happy to read it too. I was really looking forward to the changes that I was sure would come after...
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    The Five Love Languages

    I was really looking forward to the changes that I was sure would come after my wife and I both read this book. It all made perfect sense to both of us. My wife is acts of service... and I am Physical Touch. It's been 8 months or more since we read this book, and I am sad to say that I...
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    Does it really matter who does the initiating?

    This is a big deal to me.... why? Because my wife NEVER EVER initiates. I can wait for months and nothing will happen unless I initiate it. If you think it doesn't matter who initiates it then try telling your spouse NOT to ever initiate again... after a few months come back here and let us...
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    Emotional Husband seeks advice

    I appreciate all the responses I have gotten. I just finished reading the book "The five Love languages" that Yitzchak recommended. When the book arrived in the mail my wife saw it and asked me if I had ordered it for her to read. When I told her that I had ordered it because I wanted to read...
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    Help with INternet

    It sounds to me like you may have some spyware or trojan program that is slowing down your computer. I would recomend installing ADaware. It's free software that looks for these types of programs and removes them from you computer. It is recommended by TechTV and many other computer...
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    Emotional Husband seeks advice

    Yes, we are both saved and trying to live a Christian life. I know that I am not the spiritual leader that I should be, I have never been a "leading" type, but I do realize that it is my responsibility to be the spiritual leader and I know I need to work harder in this area. I am trying to...
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    Emotional Husband seeks advice

    My wife is just the type of person who doesn't show much emotion. She is from a family that never showed much emotion to each other either. She hasn't "pulled away" from me other than the normal pullling away that comes after you have been married a little while and the honeymoon begins to...
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    Emotional Husband seeks advice

    I have an embarrassing problem that I would never be comfortable explaining in person, but I think I can talk about it anonymously through this forum. In most marriages the woman is the emotional party who needs affection and often the husband is not comfortable giving affection. My case...