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Recent content by LINUS___

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    cooling off time is up and............

    Gotta vent and blow off steam...otherwise we all go nuts. I can't even imagine divorcing someone I spent a life with, it hurts enough with my soon-ex and we only spent a year together. It sounds like you are coping, and doing better than the ex is judging by the way Christmas went. You sound...
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    Baked Potatoes

    At a local high-priced restraunt the secret to their baked potatoes is that they 1st stick a 1/4" round rod ~8" long through the potato - it's sharpened on one end. Appearantly the thinking is the heat transfers through the rod to the middle of the potato. I've seen they sell big nails for house...
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    Something to brighten your day....

    So far I've only had 2 pieces, yesterday and this morning, they go soooo well with a latte. I got a bag of the carmel filled ones. The carmel is almost liquid, about as close as you could get w/o being runny. mmmmmm! Anyhow, they really go good with a morning coffee, and I wonder if there are...
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    feeling low

    One of Satan's most effective tools is the feeling of isolation. Really. Something really interesting to me is the way we each downplay the effect we have on other people. I've had many occasions where people whom I know to varying degrees say something about an event or situation I've long...
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    Something to brighten your day....

    Sometimes wisdom comes from unexpected sources. As I sat down to a latte and a little Dove chocolate square I found something that actually worked for me! The wrapper had a sentence printed on the inside that read -- Smile at yourself in the mirror -- I know it sounds cheesy, but the next...
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    under one roof but separated

    Not to get off topic here, but I really liked this point of view. As a very soon to be divorced man, I think that this is a very clear statement of what life should be like after a divorce for any of us who find ourselves divorced. Thank you, your sentence spoke to me.
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    under one roof but separated

    Not to make any excuses at all for your H's behavior, but is it possible he's in a depression??? If there's even a chance he is, then maybe the list above won't do any good - it might just drive him further away if he views you as the one person who loves him despite his current behavior. Is he...
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    Best first Aid for a bad bout of depression

    I'm finding out that praying for other people gets my mind off my own problem. It also makes me realize that lots of people have it worse than me, despite what I might feel at the moment. I also like viewing the forums, since I haven't been really attending church lately. It's nice just talking...
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    What I want

    I'll pray for you and your friend. I'm glad you don't cut - that's a big step, and you should be proud of getting this far. Good for you! Chop that credit card if you can, they are the most destructive money tool there is and it might be part of the reason you feel depressed. You can love your...
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    Manly mile high apple pie

    I only call it 'manly' as my Mom doesn't like it the way Dad and I do...too much nutmeg and cinnamon for her. But this pie is a hit with myself, Dad, and my brother in-law. Here it is: 10 c diced apples 1/2 c brown sugar 1/2 c cane sugar 1/2 c flour 3 tbs melted butter 1 tsp cinnamon 1 tsp...
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    What are you drinking?

    MMMMM...aside from quality coffee black, like french press or Americano, that's my favorite "just coffee" drink. I'm drinking a double short breve, touch of carmel. It's snowing outside, so I'm allowed a breve.
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    Hit by a surprise left... down for the count it seems.

    I'll pray for you too. I'm in the same place as you, a few months further down the line. My soon-ex has her lawyer and we are going to do paperwork, but I still want her. So I can really identify with you. You aren't alone! -Ben
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    Dating after marriage has ended?

    I'm only going to say that for ones' mental health, take a break. Relearn some joys from the single days. Decompress a bit. See a therapist if you want (I am). I hear from others who been in this place of what they call "divorce hangover" - I'm not sure what it means yet, but I want to get all...
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    Alimony or What?

    I'm slightly curious too, autumnleaf made the same general comment last week and I called him on it. That particular time we agreed that taking what you were due vs. taking all the court would allow were 2 separate things, and we both agreed on the long term benefits of just taking what was...
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    Laugh... Smile...

    I never lost it - I have treated my soon-ex with total respect and love, and I can't control anything beyond my own actions. My friends have been super great though too - making sure to check in on me and drag me out to dinner or a movie just to make sure I don't fall apart. I love my wife and...