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Recent content by lilipunzel

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    Spikes From Christian Self Help Books - Requesting Advice, Please

    Aster, The diagnosis of OCD is based on intrusive thoughts. If the thoughts are intrusive and you can't stop them then that is OCD, whether the thought is true or not. To analyze the correctness of an intrusive thpught is to enegage in compulsions which make the tought stronger., The core of OCD...
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    What do I do?

    The best thing to try is what is most likely to work. If you have an infection we know that antibiotics work well. The medication used for OCD does not cure it. If you read the researc, the medication supports the person not falling into a deper depression. The medication for oCD rarely cures...
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    What do I do?

    Does responsibility transference have research supporting it? If not then it likely doesnt work
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    Love Obsession

    The fear woulkd probably become the fear of losing this person. The compulsion might be asking for reassurance or calling them often or multiple times a day. I have treated love obsessions. We all have the potential to become obsessed. We need to take care to not begin compulsively caling the...
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    Need HELP advice about possible OCD situation

    Urges can be compulsions, so I would be careful about engaging in urges if oyu have been diagnoised with OCD. What is happening here is that instead of making decisions and focusing on living life, we create idolatrous realtionships with all manner of thoughts and actions. PLease seek help with...
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    Telling the difference between OCD and real thoughts and feelings?

    The difficulty in sorting through all the thoughts and feelings is precisel.y the reason that it is importnat to see a competent therapist, one hwo has experience treating OCD. There are so many variations on thoughts. Soem thoughts we try to use cognitive restructuring or making the thought...
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    What do I do?

    The nature of obsessions or obsessive thoughts is that they are aspects of a person's thoughts that are felt to be repugnant, distressing, ... If you have OCD you will begin to give these thoughts a lot of value, which will make the OCD worse. We all get ego dustonic thoughts.. those without...
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    Is it gone?

    Everyone gets intrusive thoughts that are ego dystonic. We do not have full conbscious control of our brians at all times. The thoughts just come and there is no need to evlauate the thoughts even if they are nasty... or to judge oneself if we have nasty thoughts. Be very careful about how you...
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    Sick and tired of dealing with this

    Mitzi, I am so glad that you have found relief through good treatment. You also have good insight into the nature of countering OCD with Logic. It makes one sicker and it doesnt work. Keep up the good work and God Bless. LJ
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    OCD question

    They work hand in hand, the exposure on the deeper fears, the CT on the supporting cognitions. Let the therapist do the work.
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    OCD question

    They work togerther in the hands of a competent therapist. We do not do one without the other
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    Sick and tired of dealing with this

    If you are looking for certified competent CBT therapists, they will generall be listed in ABCT, association for Cognitive and Behavioral therapies or OC foundation. Unfortunately many call thmselves CBT therapists but they are not. Generally we go through many years of supervision under top...
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    Sick and tired of dealing with this

    I treat a lot OF Ocd. OCD is treated with ERP and CBT. ERP addressesthe fears. The Cognitive interventions do not necesssarily work with the core fears. They are generally used for supporting cognitions. ERP is the treatment of choice. OCD is a very complicated disorder and to state that...
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    To evil

    Like all of us you are a fallible human being. That is why we need a savior. Jesus loves us unconditionally and we benefit from accepting ourselves (soul) unconditionally with all our failures. That doesnt mean that we cannot work on improving, but it does mean that we should not put ourselves...
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    OCD is destroying my faith... HELP!

    The brain has 1.7 positive thoughts to 1 negative thought. Hence the brain works in a dialetical fashion. This means that we will ALWAYS have negative thoughts. It is part of a normal brain. People with OCD tend to focus on the negative thoughts as a sign that there is somethign wrong with...