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Recent content by kole

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    under one roof but separated

    Hello shadowgem, Sorry my reply has been so long. No i have not had the chance to seek advice from pastor from here. I am trying to browse the net if there is any charitable legal advisors in the area.. Things have been going well and i have been busy doing wife jobs recently but things are...
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    under one roof but separated

    Thanks again, shadowgem. Update- tonight my husband talked to me, well not about the situation but he asked if we wanted to go to his parents to eat (which is a usual thing) and we started smiling at each other, dint really talk but he just seemed like he was in a good mood already and wanting...
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    30+ yrs and lonely

    Yes you are blessed to have a husband who respects your beliefs and vise versa. In my case, i have mentioned being unequally yoked bec this is something that is a problem in my marriage. I dint mean to impose it specifically to describe your marriage. my bad. Anyway wil pray for you too...
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    under one roof but separated

    flandid, so you have your wifes last name (or did you mean vise versa?), you are separated right? for how long now?
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    30+ yrs and lonely

    if he doesnt treat you well, has he ever brought up the issue of divorce? as ive said im going through the same situation and my husband has just brought the idea of divorce.. you are a very strong woman to go through this, especially youre unequally yoked. Reading scripture is always helpful...
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    30+ yrs and lonely

    grace, i am going through the same situation.. only mine is worse bec we might be having a divorce. My husband does not notice me either. Probably wont even notice if i shave my hair too.. How long have you been praying for your husbands salvation? I have stopped praying about my husbands...
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    under one roof but separated

    thanks shadowgem. yes i will have to go back home, since my family is there. My husband and i still havent spoken about this issue. Today i broke the silence and called him, and asked him what his plans are. He was with a friend, so he wasnt able to talk (as if he would talk anyway), and i...
  8. K

    something nobody wants to talk about single life

    Im sorry you are going through this. The same thing has crossed my mind at times and i remember being away from my husband for 4 months and i DID NOT EVEN ONCE think about sex. I focused my mind on the Lord, and nobody else. I guess the Lord blessed me and strengthened me not to even think...
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    Negative feelings towards estranged spouse

    my husband is also rude to me, and i try to be kind to him because as a wife, you are to submit to your husband, and husband are asked to love your wives. However, this does not justify their wrong doings. We, as the believers in the family have the responsibility to pray for our family, even...
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    under one roof but separated

    thank you for the advices. i have been praying a lot. my husband and i havent been talking but you feel so much tension between us. even sleeping last night felt stressing and tensed. i did a lot of thinking also last night, and i cannot do anything from this point. i cannot force my husband...
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    under one roof but separated

    i am in front of the computer just in awe and confused, very angry, crying and confused. my husband just asked my to pull divorce papers online and told me i better sign the papers. i am emailing to him a sample petition for divorce. it seems final, and at this point i cannot fight for...
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    under one roof but separated

    no i do not own the house. we have told each other several times about divorce. the issue came up from him again last night when we were fighting, he said he would rather be dead than be married..
  13. K

    how do you deal with the heartbrake?

    hello snowflake, i am praying for you. the lord will always hear your cries and prayers. god bless, kole
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    under one roof but separated

    shadow gem, thanks for your encouragement. yes we do have marriage counseling by our churches here. however, i have brought this up to my husband and he does not accept the idea at all. tonight we had just got in another fight before bedtime, he said he would rather be happy dead than be...
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    under one roof but separated

    snowflake, i dont know how to send a pm here so just pm me your email?