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Recent content by kidl95

  1. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    yuo are not being real. You are making stuff up because you are mad. I have said I felt bad that he could not have his own biological children. But to really think about it biologically. He may have never been able to have kids anyway. It's not controlling of him anyway I was just trying to...
  2. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    Ok if it was wrong what does that do? He's already sterilized so it's not like anything can be changed. I didn't do anything to him. He understood the situation and made his own choice. So how could it be anything wrong I did to him. When I didn't do anything to him to begin with? Also if it was...
  3. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    Considering it pertains to me I should be thinking about myself as well. As he's only minorly affected to be completely honest. He is a father to my son and is experiencing all of that role his bio dad is a piece of crap who hasn't seen him in person in 2 years. So I mean he takes the role my...
  4. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    yea I'm going to start distancing myself from them
  5. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    I'm so sorry your daughter is going through that. First off my condolences. As someone with a biological son. I don't get any of what you're saying. If I did I'd feel pretty cheated. My son has no traits like me at all. Like his father's mother and his dad. So I guess there's no guarantee...
  6. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    yeah afterwards I had very bad pp to the point of being suicidal now imagine if I had a newborn under those circumstances I struggle with pp in both pregnancies why would I keep wanting to put my family through that?
  7. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    Well I think actually what my friends don't like is that I had a kid with a loser but refuse to have any with my husband who is wonderfully the opposite. More than me having kids out of wedlock. We're not that traditional lol. But that's the thing we have a child together we are raising. My son...
  8. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    well because I couldn't get a tubal and he got a vasectomy very quickly. I am working on getting a tubal as well but I haven't been able to.
  9. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    that's another thing I never said I'd have kids right away I specifically said I never wanted more than 2 kids and maybe that I'd have another in the future. I didn't marry my husband with the expectation of having lots of kids. I guess it's more that I had my son with a d**khead and my husband...
  10. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    Actually he had the vasectomy a bit back but the vasectomy isn't finished until a few months later. His dr confirmed the process was finished a week ago. Anyhow I agree for me that's exactly what I didn't want was to end up pregnant again because I felt like literally suicidal after this one if...
  11. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    I am a christian and very religious at that. That's why I didn't want to risk it with birth control I was on birth control it didn't work. I am not going back into a situation over and over again these would be my kids you really think I want to continually put myself in a situation where I am...
  12. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    yea I was talking about sterilization actually not actually the abortion. That's mainly what I am getting hell from and I don't get that considering I'd think most people would agree someone should do if they don't want any more children
  13. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    also yes he was supportive of any choice I made it's my friends who are just not supportive at all. And extremely critical
  14. K

    Is it responsible to have a vasectomy after an abortion? Or selfish?

    oh it says I'm a guy my bad I will try to change my bad sorry