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Recent content by Jvn

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    Gambling

    Is gambling a sin? Are all types of gambling a sin?
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    Wanted: Scriptures for Discusssion

    The format was fine, thank you. Thanks to all of the work all of you did. It has been helpful. More specifically, what scriptures can we suggest to help counsel a couple who have had a child out of wedlock and wonder whether God would want them as first choice to care for the child vs. both...
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    Wanted: Scriptures for Discusssion

    Does anyone know of any specific Bible verses pertaining to the following: 1. God pointing to children or a child as the priority in a situation 2. God allowing sin, so that a greater good could come of it 3. Having children out of wedlock 4. The definition of an "illegitimate" child 5...
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    What is Love?

    Is love a blessing that is God's work or simply a choice based on physical attraction and emotions?
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    Would You Advise Divorce?

    Well, EmSchem, hope you don't ignore this. We are talking specifically about THIS post and the questions do pose some legitimate questions about divorce and what can or can't happen. I am not an advocate of divorce, believe it or not, but I do feel that there can be different answers in...
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    Would You Advise Divorce?

    Heartnsoul- Glad you do. I was losing a little faith here with so many dark, oppressive views. I just hope God would not want an innocent person to pay for his/her mistake for eternity because of a decision he/she made in a few minutes in front of a large crowd (such as marrying from parental...
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    Married Couples Sleeping in Separate Beds in the Bible?

    She is simply not very attracted to her husband anymore and is actually in love with someone else secretly, but won't divorce so to not disappoint God, so ...
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    Married Couples Sleeping in Separate Beds in the Bible?

    It is both. Sex is just not an important part of this couple's life- Maybe 5-10 times a year. So, sleeping in a separate room certainly won't be avoiding much.
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    True Love vs. Ideal Parent

    Existing child, but is that thinking extreme? We are not talking about athiest vs Christian or anything. We are talking 6 out of 10 versus 9 out of 10.
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    True Love vs. Ideal Parent

    Is it possible to truly love someone, but not want them to be the father/mother of your child? Or to fear what type of father/mother they will be? Would it be best to marry someone else and attempt to gain custody because they are a better father/mother in your eyes for the sake of your child...
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    Married Couples Sleeping in Separate Beds in the Bible?

    What if the spouse that doesn't want to have sex, literally can't? It is painful, upsetting and not pleasurable. Does this person have to just deal with the pain and discomfort of the whole experience? By sleeping in separate bedrooms to avoid this conflict more often, is that okay?
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    Married Couples Sleeping in Separate Beds in the Bible?

    If a married woman chooses to sleep in a separate bedroom because she doesn't want to have sex with her husband or to feel pressured to, is that a sin? Does sex have to be part of a marriage?
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    Divorce? Need a Non-D Pt of View

    Arranged marriages were also normal. So I would have to say those two instances in and of themselves are not valid basis for divorce. I would argue that someone who got married while they were drunk is not in fact married. Marriages of convinance (To make a child "legitimate") for legal reasons...
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    Divorce? Need a Non-D Pt of View

    Thanks, DM. Sounds great, but then I think of my son and that option sounds less desirable.
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    What Would You Advise Your Son/Daughter To Do?

    Yes, God can forgive that person, but the spouse, I imagine, never really could. If that were your daughter, really, would you say stay, particularly after she tried for awhile to no avail?