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Recent content by John the Engineer

  1. John the Engineer

    So it's over... for now?

    Well we've talked a couple times by e-mail. I don't know if we're just dancing around getting back together. I mean, I guess I feel like she's just figuring out herself, and I just feel like I can't move beyond it. I just don't have a life outside of work and her, and work was even for her...
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    So it's over... for now?

    I do understand that you marry the family, if they're going to bring their family into the relationship. I mean, people do leave their families out of the relationship, at least for the most part, and decide that their life is their own. But that aside, I don't feel strong enough to cut it...
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    So it's over... for now?

    I guess it's just hard, I keep pouring myself out whenever I get the chance. And I feel like I just keep going on to people about it all the time. So much so that I feel like I've expended all my friends. Even during the relationship they were there for me through the pain, until finally many...
  4. John the Engineer

    So it's over... for now?

    Thank you. Today is now day two after having not spoken with her. She said we could still talk by e-mail, but she hasn't responded to me. And since she's with her family during the weekends it's doubtful that I'll hear from her until Monday, if she decides to take the time then. I don't know...
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    Prayer for My Life, and Possible Future...

    Thank you everyone. Today is day 2 after not having spoken to my fiance, and it just seems like my heart is sinking deeper and deeper. I don't really know how to feel. I just feel so depressed by everything because every happy memory of mine has three of being with her. Even those memories...
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    Prayer for My Life, and Possible Future...

    I just got split up from my fiance by her family, long story that is told in another thread, but please pray for us that God would make a way, or God would do a miracle healing in me. I am borderline to thoughts that I thought I had broken away from a long time ago, and the pain of my life is...
  7. John the Engineer

    So it's over... for now?

    Well, I'm not sure if anyone from here remembers me, or if those people are still around, but I had a difficult struggle with my girlfriends family. To give the brief rundown, we started dating two years ago, things started out really nice, they were just fun times that we hung out with...
  8. John the Engineer

    20 year old pastor

    A mature man is ready to lead, at any age. God has called men out of boys at much younger ages to take care of their family, to lead in situations where we would judge age to be too young. God works in ways we can't understand, and God will move if he is welcome and called upon in this...
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    Brotherly and sisterly advice needed.....

    You gotta just be there for her, and make her understand that you love her, as God made her and intended her to be. And just because she doesn't see the hope and the life that will come from your love doesn't mean that she should push both of you, indeed her very self, away. And remind her...
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    The Girlfriend's Mother

    If the girlfriend is of age then she needs to decide if she's ready to break the dependency on her Mom in order to become an adult and make her own decision or will she let her mom choose what is best for her. It's the ability of the child to at any time choose to become an adult and take...
  11. John the Engineer

    Marriage at a young age -- Vegas?

    Well it's been awhile since I've been around these parts, but I'll throw my two cents in the pool here. First is that Warraior Poet makes some excellent points, and has definitely shown the context of that scripture. Now let's start, it doesn't seem like you are fully giving the details of...
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    Boyfriend's Busy

    Personally, it's been a real struggle for me cause my girlfriend will go days without contacting me (and I can't just contact her out of the blue for certain reasons) and it just really bothers me. However I think I'm the type that will spend days with her and as soon as we separate I start to...
  13. John the Engineer

    Job in Another City

    Which is going to be more fulfilling in the end? Being with this girl or having that job? I know a couple that broke up because she wanted to be a big time lawyer and took a position in England while he stayed here in Los Angeles, so their career paths just didn't allow for a relationship...
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    I want to marry him...

    "In the world but not of", we minister to the world by being their friends, by being there with them, but not of what they are doing. Too many people connect ministering to a non-believer with talking about the Lord. I am more impressed by the believers I met who I realized they were Christian...
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    family of your SO

    It entirely depends on if you expect your SO to take part in your family or if you are planning to let go of your family to be with your SO.