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Recent content by Jaygrl

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    Can't seem to pick up.

    Rachel, after sharing some stuff with my fiancé about my OCD, I've decided to tell him when I feel weird/distant from him. I usually feel weird over something he does or says (ROCD), so telling him that I feel strange after something like that occurs has really helped me. I try not to go into...
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    telling fiancé about OCD

    I did spike today, though, at him saying s**t under his breath while listening to a story his gym friends told about their son who almost burned their kitchen down. I withdrew and got sad, and he noticed. Now, this is the first time he's said this around me, although he has said "oh god" in the...
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    telling fiancé about OCD

    I can't believe this... I gave my fiancé the Dr. Phillipson article about HOCD and ROCD, and he read it and didn't freak out. I was convinced that he would think I was weird, or that he'd want to break up with me. That would be especially bad, considering our first pre-marriage counselling appt...
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    struggling hard

    Drummingman, I relate. I have a hard time recovering from my "guilt" feelings after sinning (or what I perceive as sinning). I know logically that God forgives me, but I have a hard time forgiving myself. This also extends to my fiancé; if he says "oh god" or something like that (we are both...
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    Depression.Anxiety disorder/OCD & Single?

    Hi Frank. Although I have moderate/high ROCD (and other 'types' of OCD in the past), I want to encourage you that it is possible to find love! I am engaged to a great guy who loves me for me... he doesn't know all the details about my OCD (he does know I have it-- he just doesn't know it's about...
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    Reasonable expectations of my fiancé

    For the most part, I have answered the "tough questions" in my head-- the big questions, like "Do I really want to be married to him?" "Am I ready to be a step mom", etc. I decided a while ago that I want to be part of this family, and that I want to be married to my fiancé. I have a good...
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    Reasonable expectations of my fiancé

    Thanks guys... but just the fact that you say this may not be OCD and may be "real doubts" really freaks me out and makes me feel even more spiky. Hmm! I think the reason I posted was to seek reassurance that this really is OCD. I am thinking now that if it FEELS like it is, it probably is...
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    Reasonable expectations of my fiancé

    Hi there. I am 36 years old, engaged to be married on October 18 of this year. I have very limited dating experience, and haven't dated someone steadily beforehand since I was 17. I have been a Christian since I was 16, and my fiancé has been a Christian since January 2007. He's been divorced...