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Recent content by izmouse

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    Germans- I went rabbit hunting while walking in 5 feet of water b/c her father was too stubborn to admit he was wrong, rabbits don't live in their holes when their flooded!! :) It amazes me what people will do to try to prove they are right when the truth is just too painful, THEY ARE WRONG!! :)...
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    If we have a few good days she claims it's been weeks, I'd be ruining the GOOD streak. She is under the impression she'll keep the house and the kids and I get the bills. Week before last she was talking about DIVORCE every day, every day I told her that was fine I could live w/o her, the last...
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    Wife just came out and asked why she didn't feel the love like before, I tried to explain she left me w/ all the baggage of the affair, she has told me time and time again, it's your problem, get over it! She gets real mad and won't listen to anything! All I read tells me she has guilt and NO...
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    UH, no we have not prayed together, we don't care for each other too much.....but I will try anything! Ya know we both love her so much I'm sure he'd agree w/ it. Let me tell you this while ya got me here- Last weekend she was telling me about DIVORCE, I was in a NO FIGHT mode so she was really...
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    I am so busted- I have problems w/ rejection, sorry. My first reaction has always been to run as fast and as far away as I can go. This is the exact reason I KNOW for sure I am doing God's will, he has given me the desire to hang in here and fight the battle for him, for my kids! Allow me to...
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    aldar, First, thank you for the kind words, it helps. Second thank you for VALADATION!! I am not here to acquire all the information I need to repair my family, or think in any way shape or forum think all of you have all the right answers. I go to a good therapist, there are so many issues we...
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    90% of the abuse is mental. 10% is physical. My wife and I have always had this "throw down" thing when we fight. The angry one is thrown down on the bed and kissed til she smiles. I have been throwing her down for 23 years, it has always seemed to work. Now the physical abuse...broken nose...
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    The book is "The Anger Trap" Written by Dr. Les Carter. As far as how she was when I first met her....3-4 different personalities, I often asked the nice J to come out. I don't think she's possessed but she does have a mood disorder from what I can tell. Yes the girls are on the same meds plus a...
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    Seroquel 100mg Topiramate 100mg 2-2.5/day Clonazepan 3/day Effexor xr 150mg 2/day That is what the wife takes. I have asked how she could be on these meds w/o therapy, I have been told this is the way the world is. Now remember my wife is a 41yr old Christian who has been to church every Sunday...
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    STOP!! The anger book was to show me the problems w/ my controlling wife!! She is abusive, I am the calm strong type, I pushed her into nothing. I am the one who has always repaired our fights, I am the one who always wanted to talk thru things and let the anger go, from the beginning. My wife...
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    Ps145 The kids and I love that movie !! And now I can't think of the name.... Sorry all I am being watched, the time on the computer, the things I read are considered to be DIVORCE worthy. Yea, I wanna learn how to put this back and she says it's damaging, I have to stop or she'll divorce me...
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    Maremma- WOW! I was just thinking about how I'd like to know your story and there it is. I am soooo sorry! I couldn't imagine going thru all that for so many years. My wife has for years hated me but she was ALWAYS on her computer so I know she wasn't cheating, she was playing FARM VILLE!! I am...
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    6 days of hell and now she's changed! Cleaned house like the mess was killing her, called me twice, and was pleasant w/ the kids. She goes thru these "stages" where there is nothing to complain about, go figure. I know she'll be back to her old self in about a week. MC was very good, we only...
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    Maremma, what you say makes sense. I am a worker and have been willing to do whatever it takes, even being patient. I don't like to think of myself as being selfish but I do tire of asking for just a little back of what I've been giving, love, tough love and kindness. The "bite" you speak...
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    The "meds" are well hidden, part of her secret. My wife came to me claiming to be depressed about J, I had been asking her if she asked God for help,( I was always taught to pray about everything, when I quit drinking I never went to AAA I just prayed and God saw me thru it, it took over a...