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Recent content by iambren

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    Would you wait until marriage for the first kiss?

    I still say it's weird to have a phobia about such a thing. A fear of intimacy with the opposite sex MAY indicate a call to celibacy.
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    Dating after divorce

    It's easy to deceive ourselves and think that 8 months we are all healed. I heeded the admonition to not date for a minimum of one year and I kept to that. You are on fast-track to hurry up to fill the void;not a good place for clear thinking. My dad married his brother's ex-wife.....awkward...
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    Can you live without sex? (2)

    The Eucharist Communion Marital sex All a means of grace and you will pay if neglected. Obviously you won't die without sex but how sad a gift if it's avoided! Life becomes gray somehow.
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    Would you wait until marriage for the first kiss?

    "I have not kissed any girl in fact I am very nervous and do not like to hug them neither. So in a way if I follow this my first kiss will be when I say I do. Would you wait to kiss?" My answer is NO, I would not wait. Why avoid that good bonding before a wedding. Actually, considering your...
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    Is prophesy for today?

    There is now no new prophecy.
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    Fighting with friend? What does God say?

    I'm a guy but I've heard these words plenty of times before a friendship broke up---"Last year we got an apartment together"
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    guy advise

    I ditto what Blackribbon said....(she always beats me to the punch).
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    Frigid Wife

    If the genders were reversed the principles would be the same. I'm speaking to the knee-jerk mindset that many women have that it's all about what the MAN has to do to correct it. We may have to agree to disagree for I see the "onus" to primarily be on her. I see sexual rejection in...
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    Frigid Wife

    "I would say that communication is the key here" Sorry,but I disagree with this too. The OP laid out clearly where they both stood, and what they were going to do/or not do. Everybody seems to have communicated well where they stand. I always see blinders on the part of many women when...
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    Frigid Wife

    "As a woman, I find iambren's advice insulting and demeaning and biblical. Especially from a man telling a woman what her obligations to him are. Taking that approach with her will kill whatever affection she holds for you." But it doesn't remove HER obligation. There we go again--blame the...
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    Frigid Wife

    Your wife is living in sin in light of Paul's admonitions in Corinth 7. It is up to HER to find the way to fulfill HER covenant vows made at the marital altar. It may be hormonal,relational,psychological etc but she must tenaciously pursue an answer. The short answer to your question is to...
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    The Death Of Reliable Emotions.

    To be whole is to embrace ALL of our emotions and ALL of our rationality. In a sinful world that has stressed or harmed us we can become frozen and not wholly alive. I believe that comes only when we are honest and strive to be conformed to the image of Christ.
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    Too sensitive?

    Some people have the emotional skin of an alligator and I SO envy them. To be sensitive probably means you pick up on other's needs and this equips you (even informs you) in ministering to them. A wonderful ministry in a world that routinely "kicks us to the curb". The catch? I was taught...
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    Advice wanted on buying a newer used car

    FWIW--I drive a Toyota Camry once a week on an out-of-town commute, 2 1/2 hours each way. It has 148K miles on it, 2003 vehicle. I think I missed your cash to buy but this is how I'm updating: Price~~ 7,000 Years~~ 2013,2014 Miles on car~~ 25,000
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    Your Ideal Man and Woman

    1 Needs to be saved, Christian, redeemed ie the real deal. 2 Knows when to take/not take me seriously. 3 I prefer a soft demeanor, feminazis stay home. 4 Ability to be intimate, physically and emotionally. 5 A helper to those who are organizationally-challenged (me).