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There is a reason God permits divorce in the case of infidelity, it is very difficult to overcome in a relationship. This seems to be a problem for him and I can see you would be always waiting for the next one. While I always advocate counseling especially when children are involved, I think...

John, I can relate to your feelings, In October we will be married 30 years in that time I have always worked and most of the time I made a little more than my wife. Recently I lost my job (May 3) and being unemployed has been a struggle for me. I keep reminding myself this is a partnership and...

Here are a few things to try, Quality time is not just talking. Plan A Romantic Weekend Away. Take A Class Together. (here they offer cooking classes and such through rec center) Play a game together. (cards or board game, video game) Take A Road Trip. Fotolia. (go sightseeing, we will go...

So one issue we see with newlyweds is not meeting a preconceived unspoken expectation. One tool we have used is the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love Languages® . It is better if you do it together, if she is unwilling you can do it alone. While you may...

There is nothing wrong with what your or your wife chose to do. This belief in gender-specific roles is just flat wrong. A marriage is a partnership, you do the things you are strong at, she will do the thing she is strong at and together you get it done. You just need to be firm with your...

First I am so sorry you have to go through this. The broken trust in a marriage is so painful and leaves behind such devastation. There is a reason God made divorce permissible in these cases. I understand your concerns for the future and not wanting to end things right now. We have advised...

If you are spending money on this hobby for you does your wife get an equal amount to spend as she wants? This was a problem early on for us and while you may have come into a bonus or other money that would allow you to fund your hobby she should get an equal amount. Are you also offering to...

First let me tell you there is Hope and it can get better. A little background for you - After 3 years of marriage, my wife had an affair. At the time I was working out of town 30 days at a time would come home for a weekend and then back out of town. It was not by choice but that was the job I...

God is not shutting the door on your marriage. Marriage is a very sacred to God, many thing in scripture are likened to marriage and a bride. It sounds like you both need to get into a young married group and marriage counseling. Contrary to popular belief it is not uncommon to have problems...

I don't even know where to start... Based on this info he is in need serious help. Let me prefaces this with we have raised 2 kids both are now out on their own, both of them and most all the other teens we know / knew do not jump up and do anything when asked. If this is his measure of...

YES Romans 3 21-26 NIV 21But now apart from the law the righteousness of God has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. 22This righteousness is given through faith inh Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, 23for all have sinned...

Bottom line - Men are visual. He is obviously attracted to you, if he has given you no other reason I would not read anything into this.

You are in my prayers - Stick to your request for counseling, this needs to be addressed and dealt with properly. You have every right to be concerned and hurt. Her "demanding" you forgive her only shows her immaturity and need to counseling.

I see many warning signs in the comments you are making. You are 3 months into a lifetime commitment, this time is building the foundation and setting an expectation for your future relationship. Marriage is a partnership if he is already taking a position that things like cooking are "your...

You have my deepest sympathy. That is a very hard place to be. The questions are do you love him? Are you willing to put in the work needed to restore your relationship? The same has to be true for him as well. If the answers are yes, you need a good faith based counselor / marriage...