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Recent content by Hferry22

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    No this is a female friend who is also married. They are friends for over a decade and they communicate daily multiple times and teach at the same school. Our families have been close for years and I’ve known the other couple longer than I have my wife.
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    Hello, It's been a year since I last posted and honestly took a break from speaking about this online so much simply because it's hard to convey my thoughts properly and it's hard to hear the feedback in the way in which it was intended. Here is the update since last Christmas.... My wife...
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    Yes, I agree not bringing up my changes. Nothing good will come from any conversation centered around me. The reality in front of me is, yes, this is done. She's expressed no desire to reconcile and has made the comment to our 12 year old that yes we would probably get divorced in a year or...
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    Back in September she did mention it but only when I asked her if she was... My 12 year old asked her if she was going to divorce me and she said probably. He said but divorce is wrong and she said she knew that but things happen. Virginia state law requires one year of separation before you...
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    Hello, I'm back....Merry Christmas to you all.... So, the end of the four month separation ended on September 17th and my wife met with me and is choosing to not reconcile. I'm devastated by this news!! We have two boys; 12 and 2.5 who are in the middle of all of this right now. I know it's...
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    Alright guys, I think we have gotten of course here. I know it's very hard to have clarity via social media without personal interaction with either me or my wife. You have to go off of what I have written and I do appreciate all of your responses. I am very aware of the possibility of her...
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    A quick update... Father's Day marked one month of separation. I was grateful to have visited with the boys and we had a good time just hanging out at the house. As I mentioned, my wife and boys took their yearly summer trip to her parents house after school is out. My wife is a teacher...
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    I thought I would do a quick update here based upon my conversation about the anniversary. June 9th marked 17 years and it is our first one that we spent apart. Hard? Yes. I went by at 4pm to our home for my scheduled time to be with the boys (4-8) and then she returned at 8:30pm with...
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    Hi everyone, Thank you for all of the feedback over the past few months. Obviously, some of you (more of you) see a light at the end of the tunnel and some of you don't. I understand the reality of this situation. I'm sharing my side and trying to be as honest as I can which means honest...
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    Thank you all for your input in this situation. To be clear... I still have work to do and even though I get frustrated sometimes when I see a response to one of my posts where I think I'm learning I still take it all in. I'm honestly trying really hard to remove self from this in terms of the...
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    P.S. I watched the movie, "Fireproof", this weekend and I sobbed. I never yelled at my wife like the husband did in the movie but I have abused her unknowingly for a long time. I can't do The Love Dare book because I'm not living at home and she just isn't ready but I'm working hard to learn...
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    Hi Folks, Well we've been around and around with all of this for awhile now and her are a few things after this long weekend that I have to share... 1. I've been very selfish in this process. It's very, very hard right now, yes, and I believe it's okay to say that of course but I have been...
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    Thank you
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    For the past week, especially, I have been trying to manipulate this entire situation. I have reacted out of fear and desperation. After yesterday I felt extremely guilty and really at the end of my self emotionally. I'm done trying to manipulate but it's still very much in me so I will have to...
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    Thank you for this; I am waaaayyy consumed by this right now. I did not know she had reached out to my friend. My wife knows now because she said something to her about letting her know that we would talk. So, I took the step of ceasing communication with my wife's friend. To be clear, this a...