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Recent content by GottaGo

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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    Dear All, I have been doing a lot of thinking about this and I have decided that I'm just not going to allow this to situation to sow any more discord in my marriage. I realize I will not get all of my needs fulfilled by my husband, and do not expect this from him. I can't hold this against...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    Link - I guess I do want him to smite her, metaphorically. I often have a hard time understanding where to draw the line as a Christian - when to stand up and when to turn the other cheek. While I usually choose to turn the other cheek I am often reminded that we are not called to be doormats...
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    Inkachu - yes, I agree. This has been going on for some time now and I just have not been successful in getting over these feelings. I guess I just have to let it go and accept that I may never get the 'justice' i feel I deserve. And try to forgive my husband for what I perceive as a...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    Willie T - absolutely.
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    akmom - he is middle man by his own choosing. rather than having his loud-mouthed sisters and mother argue with his potentially just as loud wife, he and I decided it would be best to allow him to address them if there is some sort of big issue. but as I said - I don't even care about his...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    oh sorry - wife!
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    avniel - I don't know what he said to her, true and I don't know what her reaction was, true this issue is not resolved because now I don't even care about what his sister did until I can get he and I on the same page 4 - if he believes I was wrong for sleeping at home in my bed while his sister...
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    akmom - it usually is just that. We've had plenty of arguments and there was no requirement for shunning or allegiance (I like this, thanks). I am aware that this all sounds silly - but I am really hurt by her treatment of me and really hurt that my husband didn't stick up for me. I don't want...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    Avniel - I do not want him to exclude his sister from his life permanantly, nor do I want her excluded from mine permanantly; however, if he had taken more drastic measures to begin with - like made it clear that it is absolutely NOT OK for you to talk to or treat my wife like that, and until...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    Willie, I agree. But what now? What's done is done, he is carrying on his relationship with his sister with no problem and I am here angry, hurt, and offended. He is also angry with me that I suggest he not speak to or otherwise 'punish' his sister. I hate that this is causing problems in our...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    I feel like I sound like a child in the school yard - 'If I'm not friends with Heather then you can't be, either!'. But I can't help the way I feel.
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    Thanks, LinkH. My concern is not with my sister-in-law. My concern is with these feelings of anger and abandonment I am feeling towards my husband. He is well aware of what has transpired between the two of us and was present for much of it. He is aware that I have turned the other cheek and...
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    Want Husband to Defend Me

    I have been married for 12 years. Things have always been challenging between my husband’s family and me. Over the last 5 years or so I have adopted the policy that when there is an issue I do not fight back with my in-laws; I have left this in the hands of my husband so that he can...