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Recent content by Girlee

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    The Amazing Race

    Go Brooke and Claire!! I do agree that editing can do a lot. While what they are actually saying is real, it can be edited to make that statment seem a whole lot worse than the actual context. And false reactions can also be edited in to make it seem like the other person reacted a lot...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    I understand what you are saying. In this instance, I know it's low self esteem issues and other things that are leading him to do this. I know it's not him, really. I don't believe the things he says. And I know the only major thing I have done wrong is to allow it to go on as long as it has...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    Thanks for your reply. He has told me what his "proof" is. And he is completely misunderstanding something. I can prove him wrong, but he does not want to listen. He "knows better". It's too personal for me to write about, though. As far as leaving, he just claims that he keeps hoping I'll...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    I've tried, and tried to get him into therapy. Or us into therapy. He always finds a reason not to go. I'm sure it's depression. But he does not believe that to be the case. He wants to believe i've been cheating on him. Which really hurts me a lot. If it was almost anything else he was...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    :) I haven't yet ruled out leaving. But I do want to try to make it work. He does still kiss and hug me, although not as much as I wish. And we do go out a lot--more now than we used to (our income level has improved). He has not been able to go to the gym for quite a while due to a foot...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    Yes, I do try to compliment him all the time. Well, a lot, at least. The problem is that he rejects my compliments. He will say things like "yeah, right". or "why are you trying to butter me up?" My favorite thing on a guy is arms--nicely toned, but not too big. He has the perfect arms. He...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    Thanks for the kind words. No, i'm not afraid of him, and not fearful for my child's safety. I have been being more strict with him. Any rules he puts on me, he has to follow, too. if he does not, then I won't either. It's that simple. I've been confronting him more with the things...
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    Bipolar and dating

    Thanks :) You are doing the right thing sticking to your guns!! I know it's hard!! Just keep reminding yourself that giving in will only make the situation worse. Remind yourself that this isn't really "her". Not the real her. You are fighting against the bipolar--you aren't really fighting her...
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    I just can't take it anymore.

    We've been married for 5 and a half years, and I just can't stand it anymore. My husband is controlling. He accuses me of cheating every day, but I never have. He confessed that he did in the beginning, but I'm not really sure that was the only time he did. He won't let me go anywhere alone...
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    Bipolar and dating

    Oh, please don't ever feel that way!! I can just about guarantee that you are helping!! Whether it seems that way or not! Just that she is using you for a coping mechanism definitely shows that you are helping. Otherwise, she would not want to have anything to do with you in those times. I...
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    Bipolar and dating

    My hat is off to you in this situation. There is absolutely no easy solution! Have the docs tried upping her medication altogether, sounds like it might not be strong enough. But I'm no doctor. It's going to be difficult separating the bipolar symptoms from those of just being a teenage girl. Do...
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    Bipolar and dating

    That can really be hard! I wasn't diagnosed til after high school, but almost never dated during high school. I had a really rough time with it. Sounds like you need to focus more on getting the bipolar under control right now than dating. Is she on medication?
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    Always has an episode on Halloween!

    oh, boy, spending money. classic bipolar. I'd be very much better off finanically right now if it wasn't for that!! Personally, I don't think it's a marriage counselor you need--I think it's a regular psychologist trained in bipolar. Does not sound to me like you are having regular marital...
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    Always has an episode on Halloween!

    I very much commend you for understanding that it's just the bipolar talking--not him. He gets into a depression, and manages to convince himself that you are going to leave him (nothing you have done--it's the disorder plain and simple). Then, to avoid getting hurt, he tries to push you...
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    The Amazing Race

    I haven't read all the bios, but I did read that one. I will love seeing how their relationship develops when they are thrown together like that!!