• Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.

  • CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
  • We hope the site problems here are now solved, however, if you still have any issues, please start a ticket in Contact Us

Recent content by enslow

  1. enslow

    Help on kissing

    Heck, some of us (me and my wife) waited until the alter! We were nervous it would look awkward for the pictures because we hadn't practiced, but it worked out fine! And I'm personally glad I waited! :) Enslow
  2. enslow

    Is it wrong to move out

    I know I don't speak for all men, or even most men. But I certainly won't feel as if I'm babysitting when I get married. My fiancee does live with her parents and I'm actually quite impressed by that. To me it says something about family values that I like. The important thing for c_vero to...
  3. enslow

    Is it wrong to move out

    I have a different view. There is nothing wrong with staying home at your parents until you marry. In fact, if this is what you want to do, by staying firm with your decision instead of breaking down and taking your fiance's suggestion will reaffirm to yourself and your fiance your own sense...
  4. enslow

    Engagement Ring .... totally clueless

    I agree that inclusions may be easy to see. But most untrained eyes won't be able to tell the difference between VS2 and VVS1 once the diamond is set into a ring and a little finger grease and oil gets onto the surfaces of the set diamond. One might notice an inclusion (the next level down)...
  5. enslow

    Engagement Ring .... totally clueless

    I used to believe that one should get a certified diamond. I've changed my mind in recent years. IMO the only practical reason you'd want it certified is for resale value. Besides, once the diamond is out of its sealed package a GIA cert is no longer valid, and certifying a diamond only adds...
  6. enslow

    Engagement Ring .... totally clueless

    First of all, congradulations! I would stick to a simple gold band for an engagement ring. You can get a larger stone set in the ring later. You can go to a goldsmith and have a plain gold ring custom designed. It will be very special because she will have had some thought into the...
  7. enslow

    Dating and all that jazz

    I've just been reading the thread about the girlfriend who didn't want to wait for marriage to have sex. Out of that thread emerged a debate about whether he should give the girl an ultimatum or just marry her. Many on this board believe that you should not date without the ultimate goal of...
  8. enslow

    Barbarous procedure?

    I saw this thread in the women's forum regarding circumcision. I wanted to include a response, but being a guy I couldn't reply there. I think any guy would opt out of going through circumcision as a adult, considering the pain involved. However, I'm not aware of any guys are are emotionally...
  9. enslow

    Still no emotion.....What now?

    Maninthebox I agree with what Desi has to say. However, here's an idea that might help her and you. See if she can become comfortable to just hold your hand. You can do this while on walks, watching TV, praying together, and other things. Don't hold any other expectations for the time being...
  10. enslow

    After going too far...

    I was suggesting the reading for psa. Of course I would love to recommend the books for you to read too!:P From the original post I don't think they've had sex yet. As for saying backing off never works, that's not true. I promised my fiancee even before we started officially dating that I...
  11. enslow

    After going too far...

    But read Fit To Be Tied by Bill and Lynne Hybels and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman. Better yet, I'd back off on the physical intimacy (even kissing above the neck, perhaps even hand holding if necessary) for awhile. In any relationship both partners tend to...
  12. enslow

    What to wear?

    I would say you should tell your girlfriend about how her clothing affects you, and many other males. If she is the right girl for you she will understand and change what she wears. If she responds by trying to say it's the guy's fault for lusting you must ask yourself if you can handle her...
  13. enslow

    dating problem with parents

    Try to talk to your parents and learn from their wisdom why they don't want you to date yet. I really wish that I had listened better to my parents when I was in my teens and twenties. They've been right nearly every time, even when I didn't know it at the time. You have every legal right to...
  14. enslow

    Pre-marital sex, what's the deal here?

    Read Deuteronomy 22:23-30. I think that makes it pretty clear. I know we are not to kill one another now (stoning to death), but that is because Christ can forgive the evil done.
  15. enslow

    Changing your name when married

    When a couple marry in BC the wife is entitled to use her husband's last name. Legally she can use either one. That means that if she changes her mind later, or divorces, she can switch back to her maiden name without any legal process. If she chooses to hyphenate the last names then she must...