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Recent content by enealey

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    Is husband controlling??

    While they are at opposite ends, I see both sides of this issue. I do believe in Biblical submission of the wife to her husband and agree that if alcohol is causing strife, it’s better to just let it alone. The problem lies in the fact that my husband actually has said he has no problem with...
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    Is husband controlling??

    Yes, he does like to control some other things. He likes us all to be at church when the doors are open. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to be at church too and not fall into the habit of not going simply because you don’t feel like it. The only excuse for him is if you have a fever...
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    Is husband controlling??

    I did like what you said though about compartmentalizing the the issue until our appointment and trying to have a good time. I will suggest this!!
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    Is husband controlling??

    The trip is to visit my family that live far... it’s really non-negotiable. I can make it work. It won’t be fun but I need to visit my parents and brother and my new baby niece. I won’t let him take that from me. Once I get there it will be better - I’m just not looking toward to it. I love my...
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    Is husband controlling??

    I agree. This is all getting really complicated. I appreciate everyone’s input from the ones that say my husband needs to let up to the ones that say it is my issue. There’s a lot more to the story, you are all right. I covet your prayers this week as we endure a 27 hour drive to visit my...
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    Is husband controlling??

    I wouldn’t go behind my husbands back and see a counselor individually if he didn’t want me to. So I think going forward... I will let the counselor direct the best way she sees fit to help us. If she thought it would be helpful to see us individually, I hope my husband would be on board. At...
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    Is husband controlling??

    He would not be in support of going to anyone but a faith based counselor. A Presbyterian at that is stretching it for him. Having a woman be the counselor assigned to us is even a further stretch. I really feel like I’m doing the best I can with what is offered around here that he will work...
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    Is husband controlling??

    No, he probably would not like this at all. So that’s why I haven’t really entertained the thought. Maybe the counselor will see the dynamic when we go in and suggest it for the next session herself. I really do at least want to show him that I’m owning up to my mistake... so maybe an individual...
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    Is husband controlling??

    I’ve thought of this, but it seems like many are of the thought that this is not an abusive situation... maybe I should call the counselor and see what she thinks regarding an individual session to start with. I just know that is going to look to my husband that I am trying to get in first and...
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    Is husband controlling??

    Also I’m a bit worried that seeing a counselor will not help either. If he hears something he doesn’t want to hear, I’m afraid he will dismiss it because the center we are going to is Presbyterian and not Baptist. It’s the biggest and most reputable counseling service in our area and highly...
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    Is husband controlling??

    These give me some great things to think about over the next couple of weeks. We are about to go visit my parents and he has made it clear he doesn’t want to have a discussion about anything without the presence of a counselor. So I will endure this very long trip north (two days in the car). I...
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    Is husband controlling??

    Gotcha... yes I suppose you’re right ;) Good way to complicate the issue for people that don’t know me, or us. Sorry about that!
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    Is husband controlling??

    I honestly do appreciate both viewpoints on this issue. It further tells me that this isn’t really a cut and dry situation for a lot of people. The fact that I lied is definitely a wrong thing and it’s clear that I shouldn’t have. I honestly think it was my way to avoid confrontation like the...
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    Is husband controlling??

    Thanks everyone for your input. You’ve all given me a lot to think about. This has been helpful. There’s a lot more at play here too. I don’t want a divorce, but we will need to communicate a lot better to not be headed that way.
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    Is husband controlling??

    Totally agree with that. When I was hiding it, I would usually get one of those three glass cartons and split it over two days. Did this maybe 4 times over the course of 4 months. I’m done doing that. Not worth it!!!