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Recent content by dysert

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    A Stubborn Leader

    I would NOT speak to an elder or anyone else about this. If you proceed, you might try sitting down and talking with him. If he's not receptive to that, your only option is to shake the dust of your feet and quietly move on (unless you can "behave" under his leadership). You won't change him.
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    Willing or not to stand with Trump on the wall? Why? POLL

    I agree. In fact, the interest on the debt accumulates so fast that $5B is trivial. My point is simply the fact that I would not be willing to sacrifice my livelihood for the ideal. And I expect I'm not alone in that.
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    New laws, 2019: Vermont pays people $10K to move there, internet taxes, pet protection, more

    From The fastest growing (and shrinking) states: A closer look I don't know if the emigration is related to taxes, but it does make me wonder. Our taxes are high, and although we need some taxes to support the common good, what are higher taxes getting us?
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    Willing or not to stand with Trump on the wall? Why? POLL

    While I can understand and agree in theory with supporting the wall, I would not be willing to give up two years of income to do so. I'm just thinking if I were one of the federal workers who is no longer getting paid (and couldn't get another job), two years without a paycheck is a very high...
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    Ocasio-Cortez floats 70% tax on top earners

    Although it unfortunately wouldn't affect me, I have to wonder why a rich person should give the government more of their income than they keep for themselves? Seems to me it would kill the incentive to try to grow a business if you know that once you hit a certain revenue number you'll be...
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    When is it a sin?

    I think the issue of sin needs to be framed correctly. On the one hand, any sin, no matter how "small" separates us from God. So in that respect all sins are equal. However, on the other hand, the consequences of sins are different. So in that respect all sins are not equal. So we have to ask...
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    I'm afraid my wife cheated on me; I need guidance

    Given that you love your wife a lot and that the thought of divorce makes you sick, you can choose to believe her. Nothing says that you *have* to divorce her - even if she was unfaithful. So choose to believe her and move on as if the incident never occurred. I realize that by doing so you run...
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    Mental health vs emotions

    I wholeheartedly agree!
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    Reopening Doors...

    It sounds to me that there is probably more to the story than what's in the OP. You were good friends, you went your separate ways, and now you're wondering if you should reach out to her again. If there's no reason not to, then go ahead. What's the harm in calling her up and asking her how the...
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    Mental health vs emotions

    This is true only if you extend the definition of "spiritual" to go back to the very beginning when Lucifer's fall tainted all of creation. For example, I currently have an issue with a bad back. I didn't do anything to cause it to give me pain (I just woke up one day, and there it was). So my...
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    Private Communication?

    Take it from someone who's been there and has had his marriage permanently altered (for the worse) because of something like this. I've been marriage almost 40 years now, but ever since I developed a friendship with another woman my marriage has been strained. And even though the friendship...
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    Computer recommendations

    Since you said you need it for college, I'd recommend getting a Windows PC. Apple is good, but it's not versatile enough to handle all the stuff you might need it to do in your classes. That said, I'd get either an HP or a Dell. You can get a nice new machine for a reasonable cost by looking at...
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    This baffles me

    Like maybe a forum called "Relationships". It could apply to both singles & marrieds.
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    6 figure income pastors

    But if you factor in the benefits I suspect the service member is doing just fine.