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Recent content by Despreate

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    Wife is filing for divorce

    She forgives but can’t forget the pain. The trust is gone and she can she says she will always have doubts. She wants to work on herself rediscover herself find out who she is and be happy without feeling like she was/is not good enough.
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    “At this point, you can't beat yourself up anymore, it is what it is.” This is my mood today. I have seen some steps in my life that god has planted that is leading me towards healing and moving on without our marriage. And my current mood is just that. Let’s get on with it so I can heal and...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    Yes literally has you just describe it. Her response was to pull her hand back and say "I can't do it anymore"
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    I feel like everybody is not getting it. I own it, I do and I have. Its a simple question. Do I wear the red shirt today? Yes or no. Do I betray my wife? yes or no All I have or was trying to explain is the circumstances that lead to the affair. When satan steps up and lays out a wrongful yet...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    You are correct you are only hearing one side of the story, she has her side of the story as well. She has told me she forgives my but that she can't forget what I have done, and how much pain she has because of it. All I came here for was an encouraging word and prayer support, asking for...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    Well that is what he has had me working on for years now, only in the past 3-4 months has he shifted more of the "winning the marriage back" I have been working on the listening to my wife reflecting what she is feeling affirm the feeling, looking for facial cues as to what she is really...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    I will keep you updated the best I can. Thank the lord that my counslor was able to fit me into his schedule this evening, when I called yesterday.
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    She does not worry that I'll encounter the other woman. I don't believe it is my job that is triggering her. We had the conversation several years ago, when I offered to change jobs. My wife response was something along that lines of "every company has there share of affairs and women who want...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    I would just like to say thank you to everybody who has taken the time to read this post. I honestly didn't expect anybody to really make as big of an effort as you all have. I know this is selfish of me to say but I ask that you pray for me, pray for my wife, pray for my marriage.
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    How it started: We had our first child..yay we were excited!!! What happened seems to have happened slowly, but we assume (my wife and I have discussed this and agree to this, no professional input just our own research) but we assume my wife experience some kind of postpartum mental disorder...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    Yes my counselor believes I have to heal as well, his focus is on me and not the marriage. How do I feel about what I have done? The things I have done define me. Is that the definition I want for myself? Is that who I really am? Who am I? Have I fulfilled the roles I believe that define me...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    She can't leave it in the past and she has told me this
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    No we do not. I she has never been interested in praying together. Her relationship with god is personal and hers.
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    Her pain is still (a) I am assuming without asking her. After she found out we sat down and I answered every question she had, and offered information I felt she should know as well. And she has continued to question over the past 4 years, the same questions repeatedly, and I answer them every...
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    Wife is filing for divorce

    Thank you I'll look at these links later when I have more time.