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Recent content by deefstes

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    Talking About Sex?

    Fair enough. It seems I may have misunderstood your sentiment then. You've made yourself clearer this time round but I'm still not sure I share your opinion, although I don't think it's neccessary to convince you or anyone else. What I would like to mention though, in response to you saying...
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    Talking About Sex?

    Respectfully, I'll have to disagree with this statement. I don't know you JCFantasy23 and I don't know your background but I really do feel sorry for you if sex has become such a mundane thing to you that you feel it should be discussed as one would discuss the weather or the news. While I do...
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    Boyfriend is an atheist

    I'm going to jump in here with the advice you don't want to hear. There are no hard a fast rules but one thing I've seen time and time again, and trust me, I have seen it time and time again, is that relationships between believers and non-believers present lots of problems. Nothing is...
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    How Likely Is it

    I seriously doubt it will be a reality any time soon, certainly not in our lifetimes (as the question states). If you look at how long it took to obtain equal rights to blacks and women, and if you're being honest with yourself you'll have to agree that they still don't realy have equal...
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    Talking About Sex?

    Hey, good question. I've always wondered about this myself, until I got engaged and later married. It seemed to sort itself out without any specific planning or consideration. What I would say is this. I believe sex before marriage to be sinful but that is my conviction and I can not impose it...
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    Authority

    By the way dead2self, I listened through that sermon you posted a link to and it did bring some insights. I found the following statement particularly interesting. He lists a number of rulers who were ordained by God (from the Bible and contemporary history) but who did not follow God and acted...
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    Authority

    Huh? I'm sorry but you've lost me here. If you want to debate the matter then I suppose that's fine but I was hoping to get other christians' "insightful thoughts on this". In other words, I was expecting responses riddled with personal pronouns. I'm not sure how that precludes us learning more.
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    Authority

    Thanks for the responses guys. Calluna, I like your straight forward approach and I fully agree with you. Unfortunately I do think that the matter stretches a little further than merely the rule of law. Robert Mugabe is a dictator and he is raping his country and killing people. I just find it...
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    Authority

    Hi all, I thought for my second post (first one being the intro) I'll get right to it with a question on scripture. Lately, I've been working through the letter to the Romans in my personal Bible study. I never fail to be amazed how, after studying the Bible for upwards of 20 years, I still...
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    Greetings from sunny South Africa

    Hello all, I've just joined the forums and thought I'd introduce myself. I'm a 32 year old software engineer from Johannesburg in sunny South Africa (well, actually it's not all that sunny right now but never mind). I've been brought up in a Christian family and served God for as long as I can...