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Recent content by CVL

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    Scars don't hurt!

    The past determines how your present unfolds, and how difficult it is. I can understand that no one's going to have a perfect life, but sometimes bad things happen more often than we can handle. Look at a scar as a memory of some traumatic event. It compels us to avoid whatever the cause was...
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    My Social Anxiety... funny isn't it???????

    It sounds like you understand your situation pretty well. Maybe I have something to add. You were criticized a lot, so now you do it to yourself, maybe thinking it might help you avoid it from other people. Forgive yourself for the smaller mistakes, and criticize yourself only on the...
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    Do we have to honor abusive parents?

    Maybe "honor thy parents" is to consider them as human beings with problems and that the situation should be addressed accordingly. Unfortunately that doesn't really do much for a child being abused. It asks a child to give up childhood to solve the problems of some adults. Is it implying...
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    Seriously Struggling. I need help from some knowledgable adults.

    Don't let fear mongering get to you. Make a list of things to do and knock items off one by one.
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    Emotional abuse

    Part of psychological abuse is trying to make you believe nothing happened or that it was your fault. Escapism at your expense.
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    Do we have to honor abusive parents?

    I've asked myself why, a lot. Some parents believe their children are their possesion, I'm guessing. Some people left to their own designs go astray; if there aren't people around them to keep them in check, the degenerate into taking their problems out on their children. I can't help but think...
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    Who Created God?

    The Universe up until now hasn't required a starting point, because "before" the Big Bang neither physics nor time "existed". A starting point implies a before and after. There was no before. God isn't constrained by physics or time though. Maybe the Universe is the only thing that's...
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    "Living" Computers

    I read an article of scientists planning to simmulate the functions of part of an ant's brain using a room full of super-computers networked together. This was years ago. If you consider a brain as a system of circuitry made up of neurons then you can imagine what would happen if years from...
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    Who Created God?

    hmm, that's funny. I always misinterpreted that. I always took it as - never idolize or objectify God.
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    Who Created God?

    You shall not make for yourself an idol, whether in the form of anything that is in heaven above, or that is on the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.
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    Input Needed

    You hate your job and aren't having any fun in life. Maybe you subconciously putting the burden of your absolute happiness on your wife, or somehow link it to her as a scapegoat. If that's the case then it's the situation you are unhappy with and you need to change that. Everything else will...
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    How do you deal with anger?

    Address your anger. Vent it and disarm it. Don't ignore it. Don't over-indulge in it either. That just leads to bad habits. To disarm it, talk about it. To vent it, go to the driving range and hit a few golf balls. Also, when you vent, it's easier to think clearly and be more rational about...
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    Depressed and trying to accept Christ...Long story please read

    Dose of reality. Do you get the feeling that people are monkeys trying to perform brain surgury and think they know best for you? True help requires empathy. That's in short supply these days. There are very few selfless acts. Most people help others to make themselves feel good. What does...