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Recent content by Coolbutclueless

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    Courtship

    No, there isn't. The only rules of courtship within orthodoxy boil down to "don't sin". How that plays out is largely going to be cultural.
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    Sad and Lonely

    I realize the music probably won't be something most you enjoy (metal) however the lyrics are some ive related to a WHOLE lot in the past year or so. Especially this part Am I addicted to the misery, is this how I’ll always be? Grinding the salt into every wound Am I in love with all my...
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    Is there an Orthodox hatred of Protestants?

    You will encounter orthodox people who dislike and/or hate protestants/Catholics/Muslim/apple pie/literally anything you can think of. That is the nature of the people and in a group this large your going to find it. Is it insitutionalized? I don't think so. I'm not going to speak for other...
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    Being Orthodox in America is Tough, I'm Not Sure What to Do

    I'm going to stick my head in here because I'm in a very similar position. Same age, converted a few years ago, ect. I could have written these part. Word for word. Though I wanted to address something specifically. When you say you have never had illict relationships I'm assuming by that you...
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    Best dating app/site for online dating?

    Its something Ive thought about a lot. The reasons are really simple. I converted to the faith after a VERY long and hard search. I fully believe that the church is the fullest expression of the christian faith. When I have kids they will be raised in the church and hopefully they can start from...
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    Best dating app/site for online dating?

    Yeah, online is the only option if you want someone who is also orthodox. I got to a thriving (and I mean THRIVING) parish. We have a good number of young adults (many who Ive gotten to know and who over time Ive become friends with). That said, Almost all of them are married, male, or FAR...
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    Would you wait for your wedding day to first kiss your husband or wife?

    I don't think i could ever marry someone I hadn't kissed. That said kissing is the ONLY thing that should happen before marriage.
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    Do looks matter to you?

    I think pretty much anyone has the capacity to be fairly attractive. Decent hygiene, not being super overweight, and wearing clothing that fits correctly isn't complicated stuff. So, while someone might be super attractive, i'm also aware that the personality underneath the looks can make the...
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    Do Orthodox pray to angels??

    We ask angels (such as our guardian angel) to intercede for us and I think there are some other prayers addressed to angels as well. Its important to remember that praying to someone is not indicating worship. If I call my mom and ask her to help me move into my new apartment then I'm...
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    Why isn't there an "American" Orthodox Church

    It takes time. When the roman catholic church had a similar issue issue (you had your irish Catholics , Italian Catholics, ect.).
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    I don't know what to title this. Lets call it musing about relating to others?

    Ive actually considered autism a time or 2. Ive talked it over with my therapist and we think the issues Ive had in regards to social situations is largely the result of the environment I was raised in. Ive made great strides when it comes to my sociability in the last 4 or 5 years and at this...
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    I don't know what to title this. Lets call it musing about relating to others?

    And just as a side note: i'm mildly ticked that everyone is assuming just because I have some interest and am excited to meet someone I feel like I have commonality with that I must be putting her on a pedestal. She is far from the only woman Ive talked to recently, but she is the only person...
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    I don't know what to title this. Lets call it musing about relating to others?

    Well its 3 separate ideas. The first is "active". Which to me is all the traveling, going out with friends, conferences, ect. I'm actually fairly "active" in the sense that I probably spend time with friends more evenings than I don't. But its more watching a movie together or playing a board...
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    I don't know what to title this. Lets call it musing about relating to others?

    I'll post a longer when home but just wanted to clarify I'm not putting this women on a pedestal I'm not even "pursuing" her romantically at this point. We are just talking and i realized im quite interested in getting to know her better. This post primarily isnt about her if your reading it as...