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Recent content by comewhatmay

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    An emotional day

    God bless you Jean R! You are one tough lady! I finally packed all his stuff after a good long cry! I agree with you that the positive thing about the opportunity to start over again elsewhere is not having the memories weighing us down. I know how suffocating it can be, at least it is for me...
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    An emotional day

    I'm putting up my house for sale too and moving back to my hometown. I'v been in this city for the past 10years and we only just moved into this house a year before Ray died. This was his dream home. We waited 2 years before we could move here and he had put so much into this house i.e. the...
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    Fear of my own mortality

    Thank you InHisCare and memoriesbymichelle! I felt relieved after reading your posts on this. I guess i needed to hear it from another person to realise a few truths. As InHisCare said it "Don't let worry rob you of enjoying your life", and well put by memoriesbymichelle that i should not stop...
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    Fear of my own mortality

    I am not sure if this is normal in the grieving process but ever since i lost my husband just over a year ago, some days i worry over my own mortality. Half a year after i lost Raymond, a few good friends asked me to join them for a holiday. They were going to the islands for scuba-diving and...
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    Dreams about departed loved ones

    When JeanR said that dreaming helps in healing, i got a bit worried because i have not dreamt of Raymond for so long i couldn't exactly remember when it was that i last dreamt of him. Some days i wonder if it was because of some reasons or something i did that's causing it.
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    No one to talk to

    Thank you Christismyrock. It's just that it is scary sometimes to think that possibly that i would have to go through the next 30years with this grief. It's maddening, there are days when i get so angry with grief. But thank you for letting me know that there are others such as you who made it...
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    Holiday Blues

    Happy New Year everyone! The holidays came and went without much fanfare for me and the kids. It's the second Christmas without Raymond around. The first Christmas without him, my family came over to my place for a cosy Christmas. Funnily, this year it came and went like any other day except...
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    Trying to forget

    Most days i don't even know what i am status-wise. This was especially so when it came to filling up forms. It was either single, married, divorced or others. I am single yet don't feel like one, in fact i still feel married with young kids. So that left me with others (divorced was a...
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    No one to talk to

    Thank you all for the words of comfort and encouragement. I suppose there will always be that empty numbing feeling that will never go away. I realised having very good friends around helped even when all they do is bring you out for coffee. For me now, i try to occupy my time with...
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    No one to talk to

    What you said is so true that indeed the Word of God and prayer is the best comfort. It's also true that i cannot let myself be overwhelmed yet there are still days when things just got too much. For now it's about the kids and just trying to take one day and one thing at a time. I am still...
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    No one to talk to

    I'm so glad to have finally found a place where there's people going through the same life stages/experiences as me. My husband Raymond passed away suddenly of myocardial infarction (in other words a heart attack) on Nov 15 2006. He was only 32 and 3 months shy of his 33rd birthday. He left me...
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    No one to talk to

    I'm so glad to have finally found a place where there's people going through the same life stages/experiences as me. My husband Raymond passed away suddenly of myocardial infarction (in other words a heart attack) on Nov 15 2006. He was only 32 and 3 months shy of his 33rd birthday. He left me...
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    Hello

    I'm new here. Was looking for a good Christian site that deals with grief and came upon this site. Found it to be extensive, real and comforting.
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    Dreams about departed loved ones

    Next week the 15th Nov would mark the 1st anniversary of my husband, Raymond's sudden departure from us. The topic about dreams of departed loved ones got me reading further. uncledave, i truly understand what you meant as that is exactly how i feel. From where i am from, there's not many...