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Recent content by Chartreuse

  1. Chartreuse

    Secular Music

    Thanks! Heh, yeah, I say it all the time over in marriage ministry. :D
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    I need help to get out of this cycle. Please help.

    :( Maybe if you mention the area, someone nearby will know an experienced counsellor? I just hate to think of you going through it all alone. I know all the advice I'm giving is stuff for you to do yourself, but that's just because your husband's not here for me to talk to. I'd give /him/ an...
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    In what way does your wife say "NO" to sex.

    Heeeey, why does real-life get scare quotes? Seebs, he's on to us! He knows we're fictional characters! Quick, run, before someone gives one of us a gratuitous fatal cancer to make the book more poignant! *squeaks and hides under the table*
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    I need help to get out of this cycle. Please help.

    CLN, if you're in the Twin Cities area, I can reccommend an excellent counsellor.
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    I need help to get out of this cycle. Please help.

    Okay, here's somewhere you might try a change. Instead of asking him to do a certain thing /with a certain attitude/, just let him do the thing. Let him be angry about it if he must. That anger will fade with time. Just think of how you felt when you were a kid and your parents told you, "Don't...
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    I need help understanding this...

    Jesus told us to love God and each other. He didn't add, "Oh, and mention my name to get your parking validated." If you do what's right, it doesn't matter whether you do it because one person told you to or a different person told you to, or because you figured it out for yourself. It doesn't...
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    What is Sexually Attractive

    There's a divide between what I recognize as beautiful and what I'm actually attracted to. For instance, consider big, muscular men. I admire their health and strength in the abstract; I see it as beautiful. But attracted? Not even a little. It's the graceful, slender man that drives me crazy...
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    Secular Music

    All music is just a personal expression. Your relationship to it is the same as your relationship to any other personal expression: it's up to you what you get out of it. Now, you might hear a song that actually, deliberately glorifies some really horrible behavior. Some mid-90's gangsta rap...
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    how long is a wedding ceremony supposed to be

    That gets the Snagglepuss laugh. :D
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    Favorite love songs?

    Ooh, I love that song so much!
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    Favorite love songs?

    :D :D :D :D :D ! Don't forget 'Jesus Built My Hotrod'! Heh, I don't think we have any romantic-sounding songs on our little romantic song list. Though a case could be made for 'Nothing Else Matters' by Metallica.
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    I need help to get out of this cycle. Please help.

    I may be able to help you understand his position a little better. See, despite being female, I think like a man. -- Yeah, I know, that's a giant generalization; not all men think the same, nor all women, we all know that. :) But it still gives me a certain insight. My sister has had...
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    In what way does your wife say "NO" to sex.

    Well, there's a couple different ways you can look at the word 'compromise' -- it could be either 'a mutually beneficial agreement' or 'a less-than-ideal solution'. Which of those a given compromise is (and it could be both) depends on how it's handled by the parties involved. You and I have to...
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    In what way does your wife say "NO" to sex.

    I don't see where I implied that. Maybe you're assuming that I see some other problem with submission besides submission itself? I don't think it makes you stupid. In fact, if you've chosen to follow, I applaud those who use their abilities to the fullest in supporting their leader. No, it's...
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    As a man that is watching his marriage disintegrate, I want to

    Tends to work that way, doesn't it? :D Speaking of obtaining a sunny outlook, your little 'bananas' doodad was dancing in perfect time to the Juno Reactor song I'm listening to. It's this huge, pompous, self-important techno epic, and here's this little banana just bopping its brains out --...