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Recent content by buterkup2

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    Fiance confided a past sexual secret! should I stay?

    I have wondered about narcissistic behaviors myself. I have recognized he is angry and controlling. We are going to couples therapy actually. But I know he is the patient so I'm not sure what he is allowed to tell me. We go together and individually sometimes. Am I allowed to ask if he could...
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    Fiance confided a past sexual secret! should I stay?

    I have researched codependent in the past and its my picture you see if u look up the definition. I struggle to not fall back into that cycle sometimes Like now. I've gained some ground but still working on it. When you say signs of mental illness ...like what? Little concerning if I am...
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    Fiance confided a past sexual secret! should I stay?

    He is thinking that if he confesses it then he feels better and it wont haunt him anymore. He does seem to have anxiety. Cause he panics quite easily. I also have concerns of if this behavior will Continue. Will this be my life?
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    Fiance confided a past sexual secret! should I stay?

    There are good parts to the relationship that I cherish. But sometimes the bad outweighs the good. My ex husband had an issue with pornography so I am able to recognize signs but I question if more happened than pornography during that time because of how much he withdrew. He was always tired...
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    Fiance confided a past sexual secret! should I stay?

    My boyfriend and I are both in our late 30's. we have been together for 8 years. due to past issues with him lying, we have broken up before. I gave him another chance 2 years ago. things were going well, then he started behaving differently, becoming more distant, but still acted like he...
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    boyfriend doesn't see his kids, should i let him go?

    This small voice in my head keeps saying, "let him go, so he can raise his kids". My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years and its been very rough. we have been working through trust issues, as we do love eachother and are best friends. He wants to get married, but I think we need...
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    Dealing with pornography in relationships?

    Are there men that don't view pornography? I am finding myself very tainted on this issue. I use to believe that all men watch it, that it is normal and if you can't beat them then join them. Then God began working in my life, and I see this as a root for many of my sins and needs to be avoided...
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    BF upset because I want to stop having sex

    It isn't that he actually states it is required, but he says that this is a form of intimacy that we share and now I am taking it away. It worries me about our future because since this issue started we have grown more distant. He seems more easily irritable with me and colder. The usual...
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    BF upset because I want to stop having sex

    My boyfriend and I have been together over 4 years and we started out as non christians. 9 months ago I committed my life to God, but he was concerned about this changing our relationship. 2 months ago he committed his life to God. I have been working on eliminating sexual sins from my life...
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    relationship guidance. I keep praying for answers.

    Well, I have a new dilemma. Well, it has been going on for some time, but it is getting to become a bigger issue for me and in the relationship. Since committing my life to God, I have been trying to eliminate sexual sins from my life and God has helped me a lot in this area. My boyfriend and...
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    relationship guidance. I keep praying for answers.

    When he confessed this most recent lie to me, he said he had forgotten about it and had to tell me when it came to him. He thought this should be a sign of change from within him. That he openly admitted this to me on his own without me finding out first. But I didn't respond with open arms. I...
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    relationship guidance. I keep praying for answers.

    Well, how can i tell how serious it is? I did not grow up in a Christian home. My knowledge is slim. But I learn so much everyday, feel more everyday and understand more everyday. He did follow me. I got saved last March, I kept going to church even when he was worried about me going because...
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    relationship guidance. I keep praying for answers.

    I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years. He lied to me alot the first couple years that we dated, but I was not aware of the lies until later into the second year. The lies came out slowly, one by one, over time revealing themselves. He lies about where he was living at time, lied about...