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Recent content by BoBoMan

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    Need advice about previous thread

    I'm not sure how to start this thread. I previously came here in July 2018 and created the two threads linked below. I was desperately seeking wisdom, prayer, and help during a very bad situation. Everyone from my original threads were spot on. I was infatuated and not thinking clearly. I would...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Because of the number of people that responded to help me, I wanted to update you all. As of today, this other woman and myself have mutually decided to end all contact and move on from one another. I can't explain the hurt we're both feeling, however, we both know and agree it's the right thing...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    I don't believe it's love either, as of right now. I do feel though that if we were to continue to get to know one another and spend more time together it would lead to it. I am not planning to do this, I'm just explaining what I feel. I have thought about this several times and even googled it...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    I see what you're saying and I do agree. Through prayer and the words of wisdom from this site, God has made it clear what I am to do right now and that is continue doing what I'm doing at the moment and that's focusing on Him first, trusting Him and allowing Him time to work and heal the...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Not to try and rationalize a way for this relationship but for me to understand. Because the feelings we share right now are strong and serious, for whatever reason, because they were created while I was married, regardless of when, anything we could ever have will ultimately be on a rotten...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    This is another part of my battle. I know deep down I have a strong desire to be with her as I've gotten to know her. I have backed up from her as in staying away and not talking to her everyday like I was. I admit I have talked to her when I could've avoided her and that has caused our feelings...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    There are a few things that I want to talk about that I need your input on. Because I have put up with this verbal abuse for so long, and lately the neglect, I think part of my problem is, I've put up a wall or something that has caused me to distance myself from her, in order to protect myself...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Well I've mentioned this already in the initial thread. We've both agreed that we're not "in love" with each other but that we do love and care for each other. Sex has always been a problem in this marriage, because she has never had a desire for it. After the baby though, she's too tired to do...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Before this conversation, we didn't know each other at all. It started out with an innocent "is everything ok" as I could tell something was wrong. This initiated a conversation about her situation with her fiance at the time. Me just wanting to help her feel better and provide some encouraging...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Before I got to know this other woman, other than being emotionally and physically apart, this was the only real problem and when the baby came, things took a deeper turn for the worst as far as our relationship. When the door was opened and I got to know this other woman, it took off like an...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    I have asked her numerous times, even last week during our heart to heart talk, I asked her what is stopping her from changing and her answer is "I don't know how to change it". I answered that with neither of us has the power, only God can change it. I'm not sure. I believe I made her see how...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    No, she has been a professing believer since I've known her. I have not. I was saved about 2 years after we married. About a week ago, I sat her down and explained to her everything I was feeling, from the verbal abuse, to the problems with the marriage, and the feelings for this other woman...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Thank you all for taking the time to read my situation and respond. I understand and believe what you're all saying especially the part about me needing to run the other way. It's very difficult, especially feeling the way I do about this other woman and knowing the situation with my wife. I...
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    RE: Married man but having feelings for another woman

    I had to create a new thread because my initial one was locked due to some off topic discussion. This is my initial thread I'm referring to: Married man but having feelings for another woman Anyway, I'm not sure how to even start this thread, but I'll start by asking for your continuous...
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    Married man but having feelings for another woman

    Thanks again to all who have commented. It has helped me tremendously to read your comments. Yesterday evening I told this woman that I had open doors I shouldn't have and that because of my covenant with God and my wife that I had to honor it period. I told her there was absolutely no Godly way...