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Recent content by blacksheep78

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    Am I obsessing over her physical imperfections?

    I'm in the same boat. I am dating a really nice, highly compatible man who I find attractive in all but one physical aspect - the shape of his head (he is balding quite a bit) No one else thinks it should be an issue, there's just something about me and head shapes/sizes. I soooo want to get...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    Well, I have the idea that He created the world knowing full well that Adam would sin, and knowing that this would throw everyone into spiritual corruption, and that many would go to hell (whatever that means), and then He expects us to be grateful for saving us from something that is not our...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    Ok. Thank you. I am wondering if I have some OCD. All my life, if something is bugging me, and people give me an answer, I keep finding reasons why the answer might not be right, or I keep obsessing on another more negative answer that I've heard and insisting that this more negative one is...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    Let me add some things. I have spent my entire life feeling not right with God/Jesus. Somehow I learned to resist Him and this resistance has never gone away. In my heart I resisted my father over and over. His anger and discipline never broke me. I resisted also because I went to Christian...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    If repentance is turning to Jesus, and being willing to stop sinning (and making efforts to that end), and confessing all sin to God - then I have done that. Where I have trouble is feeling sorry and feeling culpable. The best I can do at this point is to be sorry to God for not being sorry. I...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    I really hope so. I've studied the issue and can't make up my mind which is true. Both seem equally possible.
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    I keep trying to pound this one into my brain. Also the one that says "Shall not the judge of all the earth do right?" And the one that says "The Lord has compassion on all that He has made". But it's like I can't STAND the idea of people being punished with horrible punishment - especially...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    Yeah, I should try to focus on the positive aspects. Thank you.
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    Thank you for giving me hope. And for you others who encouraged me to rest and wait. I am just really confused about something. On the one hand there are those who say to simply believe and rest and trust God to the best of my ability. But then there are those who would say that anyone who...
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    Feel like giving up but don't want to go to hell

    I just feel the need to vent and maybe someone will say something that will help, or at least pray for me. I'm 39, was raised in a Christian home (albeit with an emotionally abusive pastor father) and have always attended church, but never had a relationship with Christ. In the last several...
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    How to stop my existential depression? I hate God but I want to stop hating God?

    Link did not work but I found your blog post on the tree of good and evil - I'm assuming that is the one you were referring to. I liked it, but it does not answer some of the OP's issues, which I also struggle immensely with. For example, why does God allow this situation to go on and on with...
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    Want to be saved/am saved but I don't feel bad about sin

    Pretty sure I just answered my own question. It would be awesome to have an "experience" but of course many believers never get that, and Paul never told anyone in the churches to look for that or to rely on that.
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    Want to be saved/am saved but I don't feel bad about sin

    I'm glad I found this. I am struggling SO much with the same thing. I keep thinking that if I do not have a real sense of the horror of sin, a real sorrow at having offended God, and a real heartfelt agreement that I deserve hell, then I cannot be saved. I know that I have pride, and...
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    "deserving" hell, PSA, and gratitude

    This is helpful. Thank you. It's like when I find a daddy longlegs in my shower and I warn it that if it does not leave the area, I will have to kill it, even though I would rather not. (Yes I actually do talk to them like this lol) I feel compassion for it but it does not belong in my presence.
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    Please help

    Thank you. This reminds me to be more intentional about which thoughts I choose to dwell on (or rather not dwell on).