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Recent content by basil0187

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    Spiritual abuse and OCD

    I think most pastors I've had did not know how many people struggle with thoughts like ours. So when they said things about being sure that you're sure, and other phrases, they have no idea the problems that occur for people like me. Even when I've talked to a pastor about my doubts, he had...
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    caught in the middle at work

    One of the facets of my OCD is that I am always wondering if I did something/said something to make somebody angry or upset after a conversation, and thinking that I need to apologize to them (even if I didn't say anything hurtful). Today I stood up for myself and for my boss (the president) by...
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    lack of desire

    I've often been in the same place, looking around at other Christians and wondering why I don't have the same excitement and feelings they do. It takes constant reminding myself that His love isn't based on my feelings. Like Sad says, it may be okay to have some doubt. The prayer "Lord, I...
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    What does clarity mean?

    "I am trying to ask for a joyful spirit which was Sad's idea and sometmes I think that helps. Sorry, I'm not trying to bad mouth God I'm just saying that for some reason with me I don't usually get much if any relief through prayer. I want to be free..." I can definitely relate to this, as...
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    Please help, obsessive fear of Muslim or Christian Hell

    It seems like you've ended up in the circular type thinking that is typical of OCD and the doubts that many of us have about what we believe or if we believe 'enough'. Are you seeking help with these struggles? That inner argument always pivots around what I have done, whether I believe enough...
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    need help please!

    I have been struggling with similar doubts and questions for years, not blasphemous thoughts but just wondering "was I really saved?". Hearing people talk about being sure without any doubt that they are saved does not help. But knowing that there is a real difference between doubting and...