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Recent content by BasedTonyEver

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    Adult kids? How do you keep the relationship going?

    I think you should seek things that you do have in common rather than focusing on the things that you are far apart on. It also seems like you are being far too harsh on her and not taking some things into account when discussing her current life. Here's a couple points I mean by this... -...
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    My son and paganism

    I was someone who was diagnosed as ADHD and cut myself when I was younger but I would never view that as "mental illness" as those actions are very common for teens nowadays (especially ones who have parents that can't relate to things they are interested in). I can say now that the ADHD...
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    My son and paganism

    I'm curious about the mental illness statement because I have heard this term used when there is no mental illness, just a massive gap in how different generations and mindsets see the world.
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    My daughter wants to become an actress

    Seems to me you are massively overreacting and relaxing a bit would help all sides. Blaming a "culture" on not supporting or sustaining faith is really a copout as true faith should be able to resist all of these influences. It sounds like you are both not sure in your own faith and that you...
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    What do/did you do for a living?

    I am launching a project that is a decentralized prediction market based on the upcoming Ethereum protocol. Got heavily into cryptocurrency three years ago and I have to say that interest has really changed my life for the better. In the past year I have had the chance to meet some of the...
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    Dont know what to do with 18yr old

    My advice is horrible because I chose to focus on the positive? And a good portion of my background is working at a school to help people find jobs. While resumes are still used things are rapidly changing to LinkedIn, so it's obvious your opinion has no foresight. If you want to give a kid...
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    Dont know what to do with 18yr old

    Instead of overreacting like many of you are, you should try to redirect his passion for computers and video games into a job that pays (yes there are TONS of IT jobs that pay you to work from home). I had no direction either until I cultivated my passion for Computers and turned my addition...
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    Dont know what to do with 18yr old

    Instead of overreacting like many of you are, you should try to redirect his passion for computers and video games into a job that pays (yes there are TONS of IT jobs that pay you to work from home). I had no direction either until I cultivated my passion for Computers and turned my addition...
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    kids walking with God?

    It sounds like her "Christian Sisters" aren't being very Christian by rejecting her. I also think you are confusing morality with sexual preference which isn't necessarily a moral decision.
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    14yr Old Daughter Rebelling

    Tell her to make sure to have safe sex if she's going to do it. You can't control your child's sex life even though you think you can, the best you can do is educate her to the facts and let her make her own decisions and live with the consequences. To this day I don't understand people's...
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    Video Games (addiction?)

    My biggest fear is that it will stunt him socially as that is the primary way many younger people "hang out". It also should be noted that video games will prepare him more for jobs that will exist in the future so cutting them off is never a good idea. The thing I notice with most parents is...
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    Not sure what's the good thing to do.

    He sounds like he has a very good head on his shoulders and you should encourage all of his scientific pursuits, you will not be able to win a theological debate with him according to what you said so don't even try. He reminds me a lot of myself at that age, and for better or worse I'm pretty...
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    Teen daughter involved deeply with boy.so scared for her

    She should seem like a different person, she's growing up! What kind of trouble was he in? And what 19 year old male has goals? None I ever knew...
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    depressed daughter's eating

    Try to find out what interests her (if anything) and do your best to support her financially and emotionally in pursuing them regardless of your opinion of the interest. Mine was music, and I was a typical teen who liked stuff his parents hated...but they knew I loved it so they supported it...
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    Trying to connect with teen daughter

    It sounds like your relationship is more about dictating rules than understanding her life, which is why she probably doesn't understand any of your mindset (honestly I'm having trouble understanding some). You lambast her for being immature yet aren't giving her any opportunity to become...