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Recent content by Anonymess

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    Knowing God's Will

    So I have done a lot more research and therapy and have discovered I may have a BDP and NPD (maybe just traits of them and not full blown disorder) and have come to find out that a lot of adult children with these types of parents attract these types of spouses and end up feeling exactly like I...
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    Knowing God's Will

    I think it was staying focused "on this one I married and messed (me) all up all the time" that has brought me the healing. She was the right tool for the right job in God's toolbox.
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    Knowing God's Will

    So after a few more months of fasting and praying, and waiting, I am still at loss. I continue to grow a lot, have again gone from church to church hearing the answers to what is on my heart that day. I still feel like she will be back. I have seen absolutely no movement on her side at all...
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    Knowing God's Will

    Thanks again for everyone's input. I appreciate your time and your continued prayer.
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    Knowing God's Will

    I dont feel like this applies to me. I left. I didnt know she was a narcissist when I married her. I almost left a month in because I felt misled from her past. But I felt like God was leading me into this and that I should just go with it. So I did. I only tried harder, not to please...
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    Knowing God's Will

    Yep. Dismissed it completely.
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    Knowing God's Will

    Thanks, Blackribbon. I was just kind of praying that God would send a life changing event that would open her up. I have been praying a lot that she is not full NPD. Maybe her mom was and she just picked up the habits and thinking patterns. My dad was, and I cant believe how many of his bad...
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    Knowing God's Will

    So I have been praying a lot lately about all of this and I had a thought: Narcissists seem to be putting on a play where they are the lead character. Might they be cured if they resolved the inner conflict they have with the person they are putting on the show for? They always have to look...
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    Knowing God's Will

    Thank you.
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    Knowing God's Will

    Com7fy8: Thanks for the feedback. It would be interesting. Seeing her face light up when her brother would tell a story about when she would lie to manipulate parents, teachers, friends, etc, was one of the big red flags. So was when she called her daughter in law "a best friend stealing little...
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    Knowing God's Will

    I never said that I married her to sleep with her. Never. I would have waited however long I needed to. It was a benefit of marrying quickly, but hardly "the reason." Fornication in modern vernacular is a synonym for having sex, therefore we didn't have sex or fornicate before marriage. I...
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    Knowing God's Will

    I have asked God to have her say a very specific set of words to tell me it is from him. And I don't think an NPD would be able to fake.it for two years. If it was not sincere she will run to the first easier supply.
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    Knowing God's Will

    While I disagree about the being part of God's plan, God could have put it in my heart to marry her, knowing what would happen as a all knowing God would, and he let the devil seem to have his way with her knowing that I would do what I felt he wanted me to do when and if the time comes despite...
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    Knowing God's Will

    And you are right Goodbook. Her brother would tell all kinds of stories about how she would lie to get people in teouble, look bad, or to get whatever she wanted. Unfortunately I only caught on the last 6 months and pieced all of this together after we separated. Thank God I kept insisting on...
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    Knowing God's Will

    So update: So here is a kind of neat twist and a great conclusion to how this seemingly mistake of a marriage worked out in a very positive way that wouldn't have happened otherwise. When I first married the NPD we were immediately blessed with an amazing house in a religious community in our...