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Recent content by AndyKC

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    No sexual chemistry

    --- I'm sure they do pick up on it even though I try to keep it between my wife and I. They are smart and they know. I love how strong you are. Jealous too.
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    No sexual chemistry

    Well spoken and I agree. I like what you said about appeasing her....I do that a LOT! Hoping that the 'next' thing I do will finally be the thing that flips the switch and everything will be happily ever after. I also struggle with preparing for 'what if it never changes'? Can I go without...
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    No sexual chemistry

    Is that what you would do? If you loved someone would you just give up because the sex wasn't there? I have struggled with that and what is the right thing to do. What would God say if we could sit down together and talk? I'm sure we could both go on to better relationships and...
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    No sexual chemistry

    --- She does have some issues from the past (don't most of us?) and I do believe they have added to the problem. Her mother was very promiscuous when she was a child. She saw many men come into and out of their lives and 'learned' that sex with strangers is good and fun and didn't have any...
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    No sexual chemistry

    I don't demand respect but I do expect her to respect me. I don't think there is enough space here to list all of the things I do for her. What are your ideas of how to "earn" respect? I'm not perfect and I know it, but she would be the first to tell you that I am a good man deserving of...
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    No sexual chemistry

    ---- Wow, coming from a female that is powerful. I am sorry you are struggling in your marriage with some of the same things and I appreciate your kind words of support. I think she married me because she took a good hard look at her life and the men she was dating and saw that it was...
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    No sexual chemistry

    ---- Thank you, i needed to hear someone else say what I have been thinking all along. You have some good advice and the funny thing is, I know of no other man that would take this from her and the fact that they wouldn't take it would make her instantly attracted to them. But for me to do it...
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    No sexual chemistry

    She does provide all of those things...anything that can't be mistaken as sexual or leading to sex is ok. She will not kiss other than a peck on the lips, but she claims to love kissing and "misses it". So, I can get some comfort from those things. They are a step above the love you have for...
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    No sexual chemistry

    She has mentioned she likes confident alpha male type men - blue collar, tattoos, motorcycles, muscles, testosterone. Men she can count on to get the job done without having to ask, etc. Every time I work on something, she says "why don't you call <insert manly mans name> to help you out with...
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    No sexual chemistry

    Oh, and I have tried massage and she LOVES that...at least 3 nights a week she falls asleep with me that way. I like doing that for her and it is one of the ways we have found to gain some intimacy without sex. Thanks for the suggestion.
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    No sexual chemistry

    Maybe you are right. I'll try to do more of her love language (I haven't forgot what hers were, just forgot what they were called in the book) and see how if that helps bring us closer together. It sure can't hurt.
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    No sexual chemistry

    I have also heard that as well. But, I won't leave. I will find a way to make the best of it. However, I am worried that she might eventually leave if we don't figure this out. I think she feels like she has ruined my life by not being honest with how she felt from the start and now that we...
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    No sexual chemistry

    So, I get what you are saying, and there are things that I can do. I will make more of an effort to do the things that she wants me to do...plan more outings, be more spontaneous, surprise her with stuff, keep it fresh. At the same time however, I am conflicted in that I have done many of...
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    No sexual chemistry

    I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing nearly the same thing. We talked about separation in the past but didn't do it...mostly for the kids sake. I worry how that might impact them. But then I am not sure what we have is healthy either. I do think to anyone on the outside, it appears we...
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    No sexual chemistry

    She used to tell me she thought she was asexual and that she could go the rest of her life without sex. I used to laugh it off like she was crazy. But then I started to believe her. That was years ago and since then she has said that she too craves the feeling of need to desire someone. And...