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Recent content by Alolbu

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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    Ha, of heavens no. I am not looking to have children to fix anything. In fact I still don't know if I want them. I feel like I have a pretty good idea of that responsibility without even having them yet, which means I know mentally I'm still falling short of getting it. I don't really believe...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    Marine habits are hard habits to break. If ever they do. ha He has been out for 5 years now and he is getting better. It's been quite the teaching process for both of us because I am his opposite as far as emotions go. He also realizes his marine life carries into everyday life, even if he's...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    I would love to be the wife of the year. I have dreams of when we have our house of cooking and cleaning and taking care of the garden. I like that kind of stuff. But right now as we stay stuck between pages while moving to the next chapter, it isn't in my heart. And I hate the idea of fake it...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    If I'm completely honest with myself. No. He will look into my eyes and smile with all the love and I try to do it back and if feels like I'm playing pretend.
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    Honestly... Ehhh.... I have.. moments. His marine body is not the body he has today as shallow as that sounds, and i met him at his heaviest. It was his personality that got me. But I can't honestly say that being able to see his abs wouldn't help.
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    As someone with off and on depression and anxiety I know better than anyone the what ifs will get you. I wouldn't say acceptable. Nobody in our family's want to see us divorce like they did. In fact my mother is still pushing for those grandchildren :P . And I agree, finding someone different...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    Young...ish. He's 30 I'm 34. Twice as scary for me. Let's face it we're human... we're going to think about the what ifs, if it works and what if if it doesn't. He's our main bread winner... my only consolation right now is if we ever did feel it was the end all is that he has happily said he'd...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    Men love to say "Women just need to say what they mean". Well I am one of the women and I've spent years saying exactly what I mean. Maybe not always tactfully but... I've said the same thing to him. That I can't just make myself love him on my own as selfish as that sounds to me. And again I...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    I'm not going to say it doesn't feel nice to know I'm not alone. After it happened we gave ourselves a year to figure things out, since things seemed OK, here we are almost 2 years later. Still trying. Trying to play the whole "What would jesus do" at least on my end hasn't been helping. In fact...
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    Finding emotional connection in a young marriage

    I couldn't figure out the title... it's of course more complicated than that. Basic info... Together with my husband almost 5 years married almost 3. I'm Christian, he was raised christian but his walk with God is shaky at best since the marines. He's unlike every guy I've been with, strong...