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Recent content by a fallen leaf

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    Confusion

    We were together for a year before that happened and things were great. He's willing to take a break for a few months and see if that changes anything. I need to go abroad because i'm on an international course. But it wouldn't necessarily be too far away. Do you guys think it could work out...
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    Confusion

    Hi guys, Some time ago I wrote how I lost feelings for my boyfriend - my perception of him just changed all of a sudden. Yes, I know love is a decision. Yes, I know true love never dies. I'm being very unhappy, it's been going on for 2 months and I don't know what to do, however much I'd...
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    Any book suggestions?

    hi there, we've been using Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World, though this one is for Catholics I believe. Other ones: - Love and Responsibility, or a shorter, more readable Men, Women and the Mystery of Love - Boy Meets Girl Hope this helps!
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    Can you help love?

    JdwB10, thanks a lot, the story's quite helpful, but the thing is you felt so many emotions when that happened, and I feel nothing. Maybe a little bit of fear, anxiety and aversion towards him, but nothing as powerful as your feelings. Does it still apply? Someone said once that the opposite of...
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    Can you help love?

    I don't think I am - unless it's a subconscious thought. So far I always believed we can managed it fine, could see each other every month or so. And now this thing happened.... I think I'll just try to love him in a way it is possible for me now, and try not to think what goes on with my...
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    Can you help love?

    I just had a thought: Before that feeling came upon me - I'd always do things that would convince him that I'm the one for him - and so was trying to do things that I knew he appreciated and I knew he would admire me for them, e.i. cooking for him, going where he'd like me to be. Recently he...
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    Can you help love?

    I'm not really in a hurry to get married - I have to go abroad for a few years and I know it's gonna be tough on us. But he thinks seriously about it and I know it means a lot to him. I don't want to lead him on, saying it'll be all fine and that I love him, while my feelings try to convince me...
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    Can you help love?

    JdwB10, thanks so much, I was trying to PM you but it wouldn't let me. The thing has been dragging me down for a month now. I really need someone to tell me what is wrong with me. I read all these messages and I'm extremely grateful but please once more, help - it got worse. I don't know what...
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    can you help love?

    Met up with him yesterday. And all my insecurity returned. I cooked for him, we went to church together, and tried to change my attitude and by the end of the day I still felt as if I was lying to him. I told him how I felt about him, and that although I loved him, I couldn't help not feeling...
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    can you help love?

    JdwB10, I'm so grateful you poured out your heart to address my stupidity. I've been struggling with my feeling so terribly for the last few days, getting anxious, couldn't sleep and eat, and probably persuading myself that all my feelings for him are gone. Saw him yesterday and a kiss didn't...
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    can you help love?

    Hello - I've been in a relationship for year with a great Christian guy - a type of a man I could imagine as my husband and father of my children. However, recently something strange happened with my feelings - don't feel butterflies in my stomach anymore and feel as if I fell out of love - this...
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    Can you help love?

    Thanks guys - so it's like this. It just hit me last weekend. On Friday, randomly I got strange about him, then it stopped, returned in the morning. Later on I met on Saturday, went to dinner, everything was great as always, forgot about the whole thing. Then he came briefly (5mins) on...
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    Can you help love?

    Hello - I've been in a relationship for year with a great Christian guy - a type of a man I could imagine as my husband and father of my children. However, recently something strange happened with my feelings - don't feel butterflies in my stomach anymore and feel as if I fell out of love - this...