God is not in charge of everything. The Gospel is the power of God unto salvation (
Romans 1:16-17). No naval gazing (or theorizing on predestination) is required to accept or reject that Gospel. Do not over-complicate it!
God uses incredible influence as we see with Jonah and Paul. But that does not mean God is a forcer. There is no clear-cut scripture that states that God makes all our decisions. Just reviewing Jesus's interaction with the Jews and His disciples, He was frequently frustrated as man's unbelief (commonly from Jewish leaders, but also sometimes from His disciples) that blocked His operation. If God is in charge of everything, why does
Mark 6:5 say that man's unbelief limited Jesus?
God is not puppet-master. Romans 10:17 says that faith comes from hearing the word of God. Why does Paul present that factoid if even what men pay attention is controlled by God? How does God judge men if He controls their every choice of what to think on!? That is your fatalistic and determinist philosophy which assigns God decreeing our every action in advance. I cannot find scripture stating that God signs up for that. Assuming your determinism, men can blame God for sin by saying that God controls our every action. Time for you to ditch the puppet strings. God does not use irresistable force (as taught by Calvin) to influence man's actions. When under severe duress both Jonah and Paul changed course. Under duress, Balaam did not change course as Exodus and the book of Jude explains. Under life's hard knocks, men can choose to be a Paul or a Baalam. Although Balaam was a legitimate prophet who God spoke to, his ass demonstrated more wisdom than he did.