Can someome be too ugly for love?

[blackribbon]

But yet God made you a man, in which God have purposed the existence of woman for.


Don’t stress there is one for you.

God never promised us a spouse.

 

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God never promised us a spouse.

I was thinking about this tonight: What promises are ours in the Bible? I've come to the following conclusion..If we'll stay still and quiet before the Lord and ask Him to clear our hearts of all residue of self and any thing that's left inside of competing motivations He will make clear what His will is for our lives; even when it comes having a spouse or not. What I do is just that. I allow Holy Spirit to speak to me. And then I ask Him to confirm what He speaks thru the Word of God. In fact, I just wrote down four verses that back up the fact of what I'm hearing of how He wants me to get married one day. I know a lot of people will try to dig up scriptures to justify their actions. But if we'll genuinely come to God the way He says to approach Him then we will find answers.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

Yeah I find that strange aswell.

Nonetheless, I'll tell you it's your lack of confidence not your looks. Women are interested in looks, but also in what you have to say and if you're excelling at something. If you have interesting things to say, and you're excelling at something, you might get somewhere with one. Even if you're the ugliest guy on the planet.

My looks is not a problem and then you say women do care about looks, makes no sense.

i dont have a intresting personality either.

also you are wrong, a guy can be too ugly for love.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

Confidence + personality + attitude. Looks are not everything. You could be the most gorgeous man alive but a bad personality and attitude will make you look like a troll. Your attitude towards life, values, and the way you treat others are more important and makes someone attractive. IMHO, anyhow.

looks is everything when you look as bad as i do. i am deformed.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

What physical flaws? Look at this guy, evangelist Nick Vujicic. No arms, no legs, no problem!

he is lucky. few guys like him have this luck. and for sure he is rich and has very good social skills, i will never have that. you are ignoring guys who are like him but are alone their whole life,

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

Half your list is medical conditions that need to be addressed, not flaws with your looks.

Personally, I suspect that your attitude is what most people find most unattractive. Nothing gets more frustrating and unattractive than a person whose primary focus is on their flaws and the other person feels the need to constantly reassure them that they aren't that bad. It is also insulting to be told by a person that you care about that they aren't worthy of love because that means you are too stupid to see it yourself and what you feel is wrong.

what?

even with a good attitude i would still be rejected by everyone because i am very ugly and have low iq, a good attiude do not delete my flaws.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

But yet God made you a man, in which God have purposed the existence of woman for.


Don’t stress there is one for you.

many people never have a partner. there is not someone for everyone. its just bs/fairytales

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

So what are you going to do about this problem of yours? I see a lot of complaining but no desire to do anything.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

So what are you going to do about this problem of yours? I see a lot of complaining but no desire to do anything.

there is nothing to be done, i already tried everything. god needs to take away my desires for wanting a social life, i already asked him many times but he does not help with that.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

there is nothing to be done, i already tried everything. god needs to take away my desires for wanting a social life, i already asked him many times but he does not help with that.

If theres nothing you can do then focus your energy on self acceptance.

 

[blackribbon]

there is nothing to be done, i already tried everything. god needs to take away my desires for wanting a social life, i already asked him many times but he does not help with that.

A social life has nothing to do with love. It involves being social, which involves finding people with similar interests and sharing those interests. Meet ups groups offer opportunities to get started.

 

[blackribbon]

Here is my flaws:

bad posture (back and neck, born with it did not get it from too much sitting infront of computer etc) - bad posture can be corrected ... are you saying you have an orthopedic issue?

extremely red lips (looks like lipstick) - extremely red lips isn't a flaw

little head.

big and deformed nose. according to who? most people don't have beautiful noses

bushy eyebrows ??? pluck them? but I didn't know this was a flaw

walking strange have you considered physical therapy?

crooked foot. Who looks at a foot when deciding who to date?

ptosis/lazy eye. This can be corrected. My mom just had this procedure. My husband had it and I married him as is.

my skin is terrible. Dermatologist visit ?

i have a weird way of looking with my eyes. ... um, stop doing this...practice in the mirror

acne. again, dermatologist

deformed fingers (they are crooked) lots of people have crooked fingers...

Both legs looks strange. wear pants instead of shorts

extremely skinny arms. exercise...

long forehead, ... lots of people have long foreheads...if it bothers you, get a haircut that minimizes this

birthmarks in the face. unless they cover your whole face, so what?

incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain) this has nothing to do with looks ... it only gets better by talking to people

weird voice. who says it is weird? no one sounds like they believe they do...it is weird to hear you own voice on a recording....if it is weird, then go see a speech therapist

hairy.... shave or wax ... but this isn't really a flaw

skinny/ugly looking Pen¤s... how many of these have you seen to compare? and most girls think that is sort of an ugly organ anyway

unibrow. Tweezers

skin that protrudes at the nails. push it back and learn how to take care of your hand hygiene or go get a manicure

Hiatus hernia. This is medical and can be repaired (and should be addressed)

strange / ugly hair. try a new haircut...there is no such things as strange or ugly hair

big ears. again, get a haircut that hide this...lots of guys have big ears

virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old. This has nothing to do with looks and I suspect your mama did kiss you

few friends (never had a female friend). A social skills problem, not related to looks

Dyslexia. not an appearance problem and even a lot of Hollywood stars have dyslexia (Tom Cruise)

stupid, low iq. Not an appearance issue but you show no evidence of a low IQ in your writing.

poor eyesight. Get glasses..again, not an appearance issue

afraid of dogs and cats. ???? How is this an ugliness issue ????

will never have a good job and never have a lot of money. Lots of married men will never have a lot of money...and why won't you get a good job?

sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth. Carry a tissue in your pocket.

ugly looking teeth and they are yellow. See a dentist but a lot of married men have crooked and yellow teeth

Sometimes I stammer. ... not sure how this is an ugliness issue but a speech therapist can help you with this when you work on your "weird voice"

blinks a lot with the eyes. ... so does Joel Osteen...

licking my lips alot. ... so stop and buy some chapstick (and this is why your lips are so red)

extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me) another problem to address with a dermatologist

sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working. ... again, the dermatologist

Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?) So do a million other men ... I used to find the bathroom on Cub Scout campouts by the sound of one dad's snoring since his wife insisted their tent be close to the bathroom...

sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad. ... a sleep study...and they can address the snoring issue

no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything. ...now this just sounds silly... clothes can be made to fit any shape

long neck. ... so what? ...long necks or even short necks aren't that uncommon..

Etc. I can just keep going. with excuses on why you can continue to reject other people and not invite them into your life?

 

[Sketcher]

there is nothing to be done, i already tried everything. god needs to take away my desires for wanting a social life, i already asked him many times but he does not help with that.

God doesn't owe you that.

 

[name_is_irrelevant]

he is lucky. few guys like him have this luck. and for sure he is rich and has very good social skills, i will never have that.

I'm curious to know how many women you have asked out, and how many said no and told you that it was because of your looks. Then compare that number to the number of single women in Serbia to see if your conclusions about your appearance are warranted or not. I can't believe that your appearance is the dealbreaker you believe it to be. Also be sure to factor in where you asked these women out, eg was it an online platform like Tinder? That certainly doesn't represent everyone.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

If theres nothing you can do then focus your energy on self acceptance.

not working.

i am burning of desire, the bible tells to marry if we do that, but i will never get married. so why do i burn of desire. thats weird.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

God doesn't owe you that.

why not? i need his help to take away my desire for wanting sex/a wife/friends. i am depressed for having no chance to get any of that.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

A social life has nothing to do with love. It involves being social, which involves finding people with similar interests and sharing those interests. Meet ups groups offer opportunities to get started.

what meet up groups?

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

I'm curious to know how many women you have asked out, and how many said no and told you that it was because of your looks. Then compare that number to the number of single women in Serbia to see if your conclusions about your appearance are warranted or not. I can't believe that your appearance is the dealbreaker you believe it to be. Also be sure to factor in where you asked these women out, eg was it an online platform like Tinder? That certainly doesn't represent everyone.

1000+ women. all of them declined me. some of them made bad comments about my looks.

how can not my looks be a problem when i am brutally ugly? but yeah my low iq is a problem too.

i asked out women on different websites.

 

[Serbian_W0lf]

Here is my flaws:

bad posture (back and neck, born with it did not get it from too much sitting infront of computer etc) - bad posture can be corrected ... are you saying you have an orthopedic issue?

extremely red lips (looks like lipstick) - extremely red lips isn't a flaw

little head.

big and deformed nose. according to who? most people don't have beautiful noses

bushy eyebrows ??? pluck them? but I didn't know this was a flaw

walking strange have you considered physical therapy?

crooked foot. Who looks at a foot when deciding who to date?

ptosis/lazy eye. This can be corrected. My mom just had this procedure. My husband had it and I married him as is.

my skin is terrible. Dermatologist visit ?

i have a weird way of looking with my eyes. ... um, stop doing this...practice in the mirror

acne. again, dermatologist

deformed fingers (they are crooked) lots of people have crooked fingers...

Both legs looks strange. wear pants instead of shorts

extremely skinny arms. exercise...

long forehead, ... lots of people have long foreheads...if it bothers you, get a haircut that minimizes this

birthmarks in the face. unless they cover your whole face, so what?

incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain) this has nothing to do with looks ... it only gets better by talking to people

weird voice. who says it is weird? no one sounds like they believe they do...it is weird to hear you own voice on a recording....if it is weird, then go see a speech therapist

hairy.... shave or wax ... but this isn't really a flaw

skinny/ugly looking Pen¤s... how many of these have you seen to compare? and most girls think that is sort of an ugly organ anyway

unibrow. Tweezers

skin that protrudes at the nails. push it back and learn how to take care of your hand hygiene or go get a manicure

Hiatus hernia. This is medical and can be repaired (and should be addressed)

strange / ugly hair. try a new haircut...there is no such things as strange or ugly hair

big ears. again, get a haircut that hide this...lots of guys have big ears

virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old. This has nothing to do with looks and I suspect your mama did kiss you

few friends (never had a female friend). A social skills problem, not related to looks

Dyslexia. not an appearance problem and even a lot of Hollywood stars have dyslexia (Tom Cruise)

stupid, low iq. Not an appearance issue but you show no evidence of a low IQ in your writing.

poor eyesight. Get glasses..again, not an appearance issue

afraid of dogs and cats. ???? How is this an ugliness issue ????

will never have a good job and never have a lot of money. Lots of married men will never have a lot of money...and why won't you get a good job?

sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth. Carry a tissue in your pocket.

ugly looking teeth and they are yellow. See a dentist but a lot of married men have crooked and yellow teeth

Sometimes I stammer. ... not sure how this is an ugliness issue but a speech therapist can help you with this when you work on your "weird voice"

blinks a lot with the eyes. ... so does Joel Osteen...

licking my lips alot. ... so stop and buy some chapstick (and this is why your lips are so red)

extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me) another problem to address with a dermatologist

sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working. ... again, the dermatologist

Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?) So do a million other men ... I used to find the bathroom on Cub Scout campouts by the sound of one dad's snoring since his wife insisted their tent be close to the bathroom...

sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad. ... a sleep study...and they can address the snoring issue

no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything. ...now this just sounds silly... clothes can be made to fit any shape

long neck. ... so what? ...long necks or even short necks aren't that uncommon..

Etc. I can just keep going. with excuses on why you can continue to reject other people and not invite them into your life?

i dont reject other people, its others who reject me.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

not working.

i am burning of desire, the bible tells to marry if we do that, but i will never get married. so why do i burn of desire. thats weird.

Keep trying till you see your desired result. You don't just give up.