We should start here maybe then:
We touched on this earlier and you seemed to agree that we by tweaking the constants CAN actually determine if life of any kind could exist. For instance I gave you the nuclear force example. Here are a few more from Luke Barnes which if you will remember is the physicist I provided for your review.
“There are changes we can make to the laws of nature that result in a universe so simple, so barren, that by any definition of life, this isn’t it. The cosmological constant is a good example: we have a 120 orders of magnitude to play with, but after even 10 or 20, the universe contains nothing but an expanding hydrogen soup. Such a universe is very easy to predict – the universe never leaves the “linear regime”. We can solve the equations of cosmological structure formation. Compared to calculating the behaviour of our universe, this one is a doddle.
“If the strong force were weaker, the periodic table would consist of only hydrogen. We do not need a rigorous definition of life to reasonably conclude that a universe with one chemical reaction (2H → H2) would not be able to create and sustain the complexity necessary for life.”)
Life requires order and a multitude of hypothetical arrangements do not allow for life of any kind due to a complete lack of order. That is why most scientists agree that other life forms would be exceedingly rare if any existed at all.
Edited to add: Not only is it fine tuned for intelligent life but also fine tuned to exist at all.