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Okay, they aren't pastors. Why should these people have to do business with gay people? Would they have to do business with people who aren't their religion as well? What about ISIS, would they have to rent their venue to ISIS if they come a knocking?

This has already been discussed ad nauseam here but I see that you're a newbie. If you operate a public accommodation business you must comply with the laws in the municipality it is located in. You can appeal to change those laws if you wish, but you cannot simply break them without expectation of consequences.

If I opened a store, I would never sell my things to people I don't approve of. I wouldn't sell to non-christians, or people with perversions that are going to be the end of us.

The simple solution is for you to never open a store in the US because you are either ignorant or indifferent about the laws you'll be obligated to follow, either of which would lead to failure. Besides you'd either go bankrupt by turning away the majority of your customers or you'd be a hypocrite. According to the Bible, most of us are people with perversions regardless of our sexual orientation, sexual habits, and whether we're prudish virgins, faithfully married, or porn stars. In Matthew 15:11, Jesus indicates that perversion is a matter of the heart: “What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.” Proverbs has multiple verses about perversion of speech such as gossip, slander, malice, and Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” You'd be throwing proverbial stones at most customers who walked into your establishment if you fairly and evenly applied scripture to all.
 
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Is private property that the public can visit still private?

I ask because in the past there was a house on my block when I was a kid that allowed cars to drive through and get out take pictures, etc during the holidays. Every so often someone requested to have a wedding ceremony there.

What then are the legal responsibilities of the homeowner? They're not a business technically speaking.

Yes, private property the public can visit upon invitation is still private. An actor lived in our house ages ago and our address is still listed as being his on a "map of the stars," and a couple of tour companies stop in front of it. People are allowed to stand on the public street and take as many pictures as they please. If they are invited onto the property, they are welcome to step onto it. Just because we might let some people onto the property for whatever reason, we're not obligated to permit everyone onto it because it's privately owned and we're making no profit off it. At my dad's old house people used to ask to get married in the garden, and we allowed friends of the family to do so. The people who had the party paid for a cleaning crew to come in afterwards, but otherwise there was no money going towards us. So yeah, if my parents wanted to discriminate against people they'd have the legal right to do so since they are private homeowners and not a public accommodation business.

In comparison, Liberty Ridge charges a minimum of $3000 to have a wedding or reception on their farm. Packages & Pricing - Saratoga Fall Family Fun, Pumpkin Picking, Cornfield Maze
 
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They don't have to do anything of the sort.


I didn't say they had to, I only asked what if they did?

All that is necessary is ruling that New York's state law, in classifying a behavior group protected, is a fundamental violation of the civil rights of religious people that do not support that behavior.

Are we sure it's a bahavior group that's being protected, and not a gender?

Would the farmers have turned away two heterosexuals of the same gender who wanted to rent their farm?
 
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Right, all people are perverts. Good logic. Gossiping is just as bad as being gay or raping a donkey.

Take up your issue with how translations of the Bible have defined perversion to incorporate far more than ones relating to sexual interactions. It can mean "lead away from what is right, natural, or acceptable," which is what any perversion of truth, perversion of justice, or perversion of ethics does. Here are some verses with how the KJV applied the word: PERVERT IN THE BIBLE

You've compared gay marriage, which is the union of two committed consensual adults who presumably wish to have a loving committed relationship with one another to the terrorists of ISIS and to bestiality but you deride me for referencing Biblical scripture about other forms of perversion than sexual ones. Gossiping can be benign and it can be destructive depending on its intent and circumstances and whether it's perverting the truth through slander. Several teens have committed suicide after relentlessly being gossiped about in a malicious way, and it has had detrimental effects on people of all ages throughout history. Several of the few verses pertaining to homosexuality in the Bible are as different to gay marriage as lighthearted gossiping about a reality TV star would be as cruel and deliberately harmful gossip. Homosexuality as a violent act of rape, as temple prostitution, or as pedersasty are not any more akin to homosexuality within the context of SSM than it would be akin to heterosexual marriage. Even if you want to focus exclusively on what scripture has labeled sexual perversions or sexual immorality, you'd have to incorporate far more than homosexuality, yet those who discriminate against gay people rarely apply the same measures. Jesus spoke out against divorce, and yet Liberty Ridge, the Hitching Post, the baker who refused to make wedding cakes for SSM, and others who've refused to serve gay people getting married have provided their services to divorced couples who are remarrying. It's doubtful they also refused service to anyone who had fornicated, committed adultery, or lusted after someone in their heart.

But the point I was making wasn't actually about what does and does not constitute a perversion but the fact that all of us are fallible and flawed people and not a single one of us complies with every verse of the Bible at all times. You stated that if you owned a business you would not serve anyone you didn't approve of, and I assumed your approval is gleaned from scripture. You wouldn't sell to anyone who isn't a Christian, though you'd have no way of knowing whether the casual patron coming into your business establishment was a sincere Christian or one telling you he was so you'd serve him. Even if he was a Christian you wouldn't know if he faithfully adhered to scripture or to your interpretation of it. So essentially you'd be spending all your time judging and trying to qualify your potential patrons instead of actually running your business. And out of fairness, all other businesses would have the right to not serve you and anyone else based on their own ideals of morality.
 
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I didn't say they had to, I only asked what if they did?



Are we sure it's a bahavior group that's being protected, and not a gender?

Would the farmers have turned away two heterosexuals of the same gender who wanted to rent their farm?

Nothing would happen. Just like nothing really changed just from passing the Civil Rights Act. Social attitudes towards racism changed. That's what would keep businesses from putting up "no blacks" signs. The people that are going to engage in that sort of thing are already doing it covertly. At least if they could be upfront people of an excluded group wouldn't waste their time applying for a job they aren't going to get, or going into a business that has no desire to serve them.

"Gender" is not a legally meaningful term. Sex is, and I suppose if they were refusing to allow weddings with men or women present you'd have some sort of a point here. The problem is New York's statute went into the concept of "sexual orientation" as protected. Which is to say stepping into the merky realm of declaring behavior a protected class. It's no secret I think all anti-discrimination laws are a fundamental violation of free association. That said, there's a reason protected classes include intrinsic characteristics (a person's sex or race) and not behaviors. In this case you create a clear violation of people's federally protected right to participate economically while practicing their religion. This is tantamount to shutting down a Jewish deli by outlawing product handling consistent with Kashrut law.
 
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So essentially you'd be spending all your time judging and trying to qualify your potential patrons instead of actually running your business. And out of fairness, all other businesses would have the right to not serve you and anyone else based on their own ideals of morality.


Yeah, it's called a free society when people are allowed to associate, or not, with whom they choose. That would include that right not to frequent businesses that discriminated against people if you wanted. People from the government with guns just aren't needed.
 
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Nothing would happen. Just like nothing really changed just from passing the Civil Rights Act. Social attitudes towards racism changed. That's what would keep businesses from putting up "no blacks" signs. The people that are going to engage in that sort of thing are already doing it covertly. At least if they could be upfront people of an excluded group wouldn't waste their time applying for a job they aren't going to get, or going into a business that has no desire to serve them.

So, let's use religion as an excuse to do it overtly again.

I guess it's good for something.

"Gender" is not a legally meaningful term. Sex is, and I suppose if they were refusing to allow weddings with men or women present you'd have some sort of a point here. The problem is New York's statute went into the concept of "sexual orientation" as protected.

And even if it didn't, discrimination by sex is still illegaly according to Federal law.

Which is to say stepping into the merky realm of declaring behavior a protected class.

Nothing murky about it -- is not a religious belief a behavior as well?

It's no secret I think all anti-discrimination laws are a fundamental violation of free association. That said, there's a reason protected classes include intrinsic characteristics (a person's sex or race) and not behaviors.

Religion is, and it's protected -- are you saying it shouldn't be?

In this case you create a clear violation of people's federally protected right to participate economically while practicing their religion. This is tantamount to shutting down a Jewish deli by outlawing product handling consistent with Kashrut law.

Is that right absolute?

let the tap-dancing begin...
 
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The problem is New York's statute went into the concept of "sexual orientation" as protected. Which is to say stepping into the merky realm of declaring behavior a protected class.

A sexual orientation is not a behaviour.
 
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Yeah, it's called a free society when people are allowed to associate, or not, with whom they choose. That would include that right not to frequent businesses that discriminated against people if you wanted. People from the government with guns just aren't needed.

Yes, of course people in the United States and other countries with similar liberties are permitted to be homophobic, xenophobic, anglophobic, racist, misogynistic, misandrist, ageist, elitist, to refuse to serve Christians, red heads, Muslims, Jews, blondes, anyone who doesn't have blue eyes, anyone who does, anyone who supports a sports team rival to the one they support, people with freckles, people with lisps, skinny people, people who go to SDSU, people who go to UCLA, so forth and so on.

But what they cannot do is operate a public accommodation business in a municipality with anti-discrimination laws all public accommodation businesses are required to comply with and be noncompliant with those laws with impunity.
SDSU and other public universities, as well as most private ones, have policies against discrimination as well, and that includes discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.
 
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I guess you would put the law above the God of Abraham. There is a true God in this world, and he isn't the lord of Muslims and Jews. Nor does he like gay people.

Sure, we have anti-discrimination laws, now ask yourself, are these laws greater than God? Nope.

So, are you compliant with all the laws of the Bible, then?
 
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I guess you would put the law above the God of Abraham.

Well.... duh.

There is a true God in this world, and he isn't the lord of Muslims and Jews. Nor does he like gay people.

And you are dogmatically required to hate who He hates, amirite?

Sure, we have anti-discrimination laws, now ask yourself, are these laws greater than God? Nope.

If God has an issue with the laws, he can write His congressman like anybody else.
 
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I guess you would put the law above the God of Abraham. There is a true God in this world, and he isn't the lord of Muslims and Jews. Nor does he like gay people.

Sure, we have anti-discrimination laws, now ask yourself, are these laws greater than God? Nope.

This viewpoint is so anti-Christian all I can do is smack my head. God loves gay people.
 
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My argument isn't that it can't happen, my argument is that when a large enough people disapprove of it then it takes a bold business to exclude any section of the population and that however bold a business might be it's still ultimately their choice who to serve.

But as Artemis97 pointed out, what brought about that change in attitude was a change in the law. Many people in the south did treat blacks as if they weren't fully American (or even fully human in some cases), and without a change in the law that brought about a change in attitude, it probably would still be occurring today. That many want to further this discrimination toward homosexuals proves the point.

You keep repeating this mantra but saying it often enough doesn't make it true.

My saying it doesn't make it true; it being true, however, does.

Calling it a "mantra" doesn't change the reality of it.

Why should every single person have the right to enter a business just because the business exists?

If the business is open to the public, being a member of the public gives them that right.

Put another way, why shouldn't a business be able to open a shop front but only allow certain groups of people to enter it? Or put yet another way, why is the automatic assumption that a business that provides a service must provide it to anyone?

Again, if you're open to the public, you have to accept the public into your store.

If you want to open a private club or limit your trade to only certain clients, that's something else. Then you wouldn't be open to the public, but only to your own clients.

Granted, that might limit the amount of money you make, but that's the price you pay for not wanting to accept public trade.

Of course, but if we could just get past this "business open to the public" mantra perhaps we could see the concept of a "business open to a selected portion of the public".

The law doesn't see it that way. If your business is open to the public, then you can't discriminate against things like race, creed, gender, sexual orientation, etc.

I've never been explicitly told that I wasn't wanted but have been to several places (only once) and found that they didn't cater to people like me. I've been in clothing stores only to find I was wasting my time because they didn't stock anything in my size and didn't even offer a product by special order, I've been to pubs (before the smoking ban) where the smoke was so intense I had to leave before I was physically sick, and so on. So although I haven't been directly discriminated against in the way that black people were in the past, it's been very clear to me that "people like me" were people the business owners didn't particularly care about in their businesses. So I took my business elsewhere, and at times that meant a degree of social exclusion when groups of people particularly liked the venues that I found unacceptable/undesirable/unbearable.

Which is not the same thing.

... and so the mantra endlessly repeats.

Because it's true.

So perhaps the answer is a private business, one that may have a shop front but which is only open to members, and that gets to choose its members based on whatever criteria it chooses.

Sure. Many states have ordinances that allow for such things.

But let me guess, any club that said "whites only" or "gays only" would come under fire for it despite being a private club, right?

It might...but many private clubs have been able to continue discriminatory practices anyway. The Boy Scouts come to mind, but I'm sure there are other examples.

... so the mantra repeats.

Because it's still true.

Once it's been repeated a certain number of times it becomes clear the question is never going to actually be answered other than with another repetition.

Why should it, when it's the right answer?

Kinda like you're asking me what two plus two is, and complaining about the mantra of "four" being repeated.

I covered this already - even though the "prevention" was due to a total lack of supply or finding the atmosphere unbearable it's certainly something similar. Ultimately if a business doesn't want my money I'd rather not give them my money - if some aspect of who and what I am is so undesirable to a company I'll look elsewhere or do without.

Then consider yourself lucky to have the choice. Many throughout history haven't; and even to this day, some still don't.

The key thing here is that the government can't change what people think and shouldn't even be in the business of even trying to change people by force.

Depends on what the thought is. For those people who think a certain person deserves to be killed, for example, the government is perfectly justified in forcing them to not do that...or to be punished for having done it.

Same goes for anyone else who breaks the law.

If a retail establishment is hostile to the gay community, open an alternative outlet that caters to the gay community. Maybe make it an exclusively gay establishment where heterosexuals aren't welcome. Do whatever you want to do to cater for whoever you want based on whatever criteria you want. It's not as if blacks/gays/women/whoever are somehow inferior and incapable of running businesses.

That's very true....now. But there was a time when it wasn't, and it was largely because of laws like the Civil Rights Act of 1964 this change came about. When the law changed, and only when the law changed, did hearts follow. Some reluctantly.

I disagree with discrimination but still don't see why a privately run business had to be obliged to cater to anyone.

Depends on the business. If it's open to the public, then they must cater to the public without discrimination. If not, they don't.

Call that a "mantra" if you like, but it remains true nevertheless.

There's a big difference between "equal protection under the law" and "shopping wherever I please".

One includes the other. It's within the scope of "promoting the general welfare" that all members of the public be treated equally under the law, including the right to frequent any business that is open to the public, and that is the basis for laws that protect this right for the public.

We're not talking about the police not taking a crime report because the victim was gay, or the fire service standing around laughing and pointing because the occupants of the burning building were black. These things are funded through taxation where people don't get the choice whether or not to pay, so have to be available to everyone.

As they should be. However, we both know, it isn't always as true as we'd like it to be. Many crimes aren't treated with the same degree of vigor as others, especially if they occur in "certain neighborhoods". The same sometimes goes for the speed to which fire departments respond.

It shouldn't happen, but it does.

Which goes to show that some members of "the public" aren't always treated the same as others. If we didn't have laws to enforce that they should be, it could be far more rampant than it already is.

That it happened before the laws were enacted shows it did; that it still happens today proves it still does, despite the laws.

Where people have the choice to pay (as is the case with a private business) based on whatever criteria they choose, so there should be a comparable choice the other way to take the money or not, likewise based on whatever criteria the business owner chooses.

Sure. Many business don't cater to the public: wholesalers, for example, often only sell to retailers and many firms, like law firms, only cater to specific clients.

-- A2SG, not every business is open to the public. But for those who are, the law applies....
 
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Noting that love ≠ approval

Nobody mentioned approval. Just love.

Face it - God loves homosexual people enough that he went to the cross for them. The fact that some Christians seem to want to treat homosexual people like second class citizens makes me very, very sad...
 
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Nobody mentioned approval. Just love.

Face it - God loves homosexual people enough that he went to the cross for them. The fact that some Christians seem to want to treat homosexual people like second class citizens makes me very, very sad...
Christians just don't want to facilitate what they consider sinful behavior. I see nothing wrong with that
 
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So, let's use religion as an excuse to do it overtly again.

I guess it's good for something.

Well again, do you really want someone from the government forcing people to take your money at gunpoint? Is that consistent with a free society?



And even if it didn't, discrimination by sex is still illegaly according to Federal law.

Actually, in American jurisprudence there's quite a lot of leeway in terms of sex discrimination that you don't see in other areas. We have substantial levels of sexual segregation in the US, as in every bathroom, locker room, and changing space you see. It's quite allowed to segregate sporting divisions by sex. The military has had quite a lot of leeway is excluding women from certain roles, and that is a part of the state. So is sex discrimination illegal? It can be, but it can also be perfectly legal.



Nothing murky about it -- is not a religious belief a behavior as well?

Religious freedom is a corner stone of American society and obviously sincere faith is simply a different issue than what your sexual activities include. But again, not in favor of anti-discrimination laws in any sort of way so I don't really see the big deal if the local Yeshiva won't let gentiles on the property.



Religion is, and it's protected -- are you saying it shouldn't be?

I'm saying nothing should be. Anti-discrimination laws are a fundamental violation of freedom of association.



Is that right absolute?

let the tap-dancing begin...

As it applies to what you want to do with your own property then yes, it's an absolute right.
 
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