Thank you, Hedrick, for your curteous reply. Are you sure you wouldn't rather shut down conversation by lobbing a single Bible verse at me?
It does not surprise me that both systems retain the understanding that both God and man are active in human salvation. Both systems branched off a common fork in the western tree, and do share a common inheritance. I believe that they mainly disagree with each other because of, essentially, different approaches at how to appropriate Augustine's theology (OK...some of it anyway). which of course is largely why the matter is virtually unspoken of in Eastern theology. At least, not as it was in the West. Will most certainly was spoken of. A whole ecumenical council was devoted to it.
Have you ever read (directly, or about) the theology of St. Maximus the Confessor? I'm only just beginning to stick my toes into it. Deep stuff.
Surprisingly, both Calvinism and Arminianism do this. It's only the extremes of fatalism and Pelagianism that do not.
And at a popular level, I think the more zealous self-appointed representatives of each side do skid right along the edges you identified. I also think both sides are well adrift of the self-conscious attempt, at least by the early Reformers, to retain their catholic identity.
Arminians maintain both by saying that God's grace and the human will work together, so that the result requires both. Calvinists maintain both because of compatibilism. This maintains that God's plan is worked out through human character and actions, so that humans make responsible choices but God's plan is still behind it all.
And nothing of what you just said above, for either case, would raise any eyebrows in Orthodoxy, that I can tell. It's simply a given that both God's will and man's will are active in salvation. And that there isn't a conflict between the two. Salvation is our participation in Christ. Our faith is the faith of Christ. Our resurrection will be the resurrection of Christ. Only in Him do we have any connection to God at all, at least in a saving, healing sense. Orthodoxy would not say that God must do
part, and man must do
the rest. Or any such thing. Rather, any action that man freely does in cooperation with God, is the work of God's grace in that man. So human salvation is fully the work of God, and fully the work of man. Just as the Incarnation was fully God and fully man.
So I honestly do not understand what all the fuss is about! Both are true. We can't explain it. So let's move on.
Blanket statements like "Faith is a gift of God, therefore there is absolutely no human element to salvation" kind of set me off. They're so simplistic and frankly wrong (even from the Calvinist viewpoint) that they don't really warrant much interaction.
Personally I've always suspected that these are different ways of thinking about and describing what is basically the same thing.
But if everyone admitted to this, what would we fight about on Internet forums?
Even God's predestination of us, and our choice of him. The best explanation of this I ever read from an Orthodox scholar (and one fo the only, because it's really not much of a concern on this side) expressed some puzzlement about how the question can even be answered. Scripture very clearly affirms that God predestines. It very clearly affirms that man must believe and choose God. What does a prefix like "pre" even mean when applied to God? What does a phrase like "before eternity began" mean? God is uncreated. Time is created. God interacts with time in ways we cannot understand. The Incarnation really bakes our noodles because it's the very union of the created with the uncreated. So "from God's perspective," so this writer said, his choice of us, and our choice of him, really are the same event. At least, that's as close as we can come to understanding the matter.
I tend to agree with him. And it really no longer bothers me. If I learn one day that Augustine was a little bit more right about it than someone else, I'll say "OK, great!" and somehow I think that will pale compared to the unveiled glory of God.