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benf
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I do all those things too, and still have trouble.
I've gotten better, but today I saw somebody I used to know and WHAM I just got mean-spirited and angry at myself for my entire jog.
I don't know what to tell you besides give it to Jesus and study and pray about God's love. His acceptance is all that matters, even though it can be very difficult with how people act and think towards us or what we have done.
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PassionFruit
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For me, you have to love yourself. But that can be really difficult. Personally I think it's an ongoing process. You have to accept aspects about yourself first. Find out what's making you feel the way you do, etc.
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Medication... I start on anti-depressants next week :o Will be doing that and continuing with therapy...
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I had a really hard time with it as a child and there are still remnants even now as an adult. You really do have to accept that you are just like everyone else: you have flaws - some you can change and some you cannot. Work to change the things that you don't like about yourself and work to accept those you cannot.
Don't expect anything to happen over night. Trying to love who and what you are is a long, ongoing process where you will have setbacks, surges forward and times of little visible change.
Don't expect anything to happen over night. Trying to love who and what you are is a long, ongoing process where you will have setbacks, surges forward and times of little visible change.
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I don't know create something unique and beautiful. Find anything beautiful about your image. It's what usually works for me, I don't feel like I dserve to like myself much though, but I view that with other people too.
Maybe you can find a way to like yourself despite special talent and whatnot, eh not sure how that would go down. Don't really want to try it myself.
Maybe you can find a way to like yourself despite special talent and whatnot, eh not sure how that would go down. Don't really want to try it myself.
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Tough one ... I think this takes time ... I mean years... there are not many people who look in the mirror and think wow thats me !
Most of us may think .. my teeth look so yuck or my nose is big or I have wrinkes or I am not the right shape... but as far as a relationship is concerned we have nothing to worry about our appearence because God will touch the heart of that person tp think we are lovely
We have to accept the way we are made and that God will compensate for any lacking... also we always are so critical of our selves... God makes us accept our selves as we learn to trust him about our features and the person we are
Most of us may think .. my teeth look so yuck or my nose is big or I have wrinkes or I am not the right shape... but as far as a relationship is concerned we have nothing to worry about our appearence because God will touch the heart of that person tp think we are lovely
We have to accept the way we are made and that God will compensate for any lacking... also we always are so critical of our selves... God makes us accept our selves as we learn to trust him about our features and the person we are
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One thing I do is set goals for myself. Also recently I made a list of good traits I see in myself or of ones others have pointed out. i know sometimes it is hard. God made every one of us unique and according to His plan. Every one of us is special. Sure it gets hard to like ourselves at times. just ask God to help. Also one thing I do is sometimes say outloud "God loves me' or "I am a good person" and I say outloud how I am perhaps kind or giving or sweet or prayerful etc.
God made you how you are for a reason sister and you fit into his plan just right so don't you worry!
God made you how you are for a reason sister and you fit into his plan just right so don't you worry!
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Thunder Peel
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Just focus on loving others instead. I think God cares more about how we treat others than how we view ourselves.
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Apollo Celestio
Deal with it.
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I think I read somewhere to list 10 good traits about yourself (which is hard) and remind yourself of them everyday.
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Scottish Knight
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I don't. Whatever good is in me comes from God, whenever I look at myself I see only imperfection and sin and so I try to look to Christ who gives me my worth.
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Andrew12
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I look in the mirror on a regular basis and I think to myself:
- God created me, and He loves me.
-My Flesh is imperfect and susceptable to age, disease, sorrow..etc
- Got made the way I am, put me where I am at, not for me, but for His purpose and to Glorfy Him.
- I have friends & family that love me, unconditionally
- I am saved, so no matter what happens in this life there is better awaiting me!
- God created me, and He loves me.
-My Flesh is imperfect and susceptable to age, disease, sorrow..etc
- Got made the way I am, put me where I am at, not for me, but for His purpose and to Glorfy Him.
- I have friends & family that love me, unconditionally
- I am saved, so no matter what happens in this life there is better awaiting me!
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Amber.ly
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"Humility is neither a positive or negative view of self but rather a forgetfulness of self"
That is one of my favorite quotes. I think it is also key to any discussion a Christian has about their self image or self esteem. The more we make it about us, the more trouble we find.
"Low self esteem" doesn't exist. The truth is that no matter how unhappy we are with ourselves, we are still making it all about us. If anything, we put such a high value on what WE think about ourselves that we create an endless cycle of feeding our self vanity. It's the same problem as an narcissistic person just in a different twist.
My feeling is that I never want to "love" myself or think I'm the bees knees because as a follower of Christ- I've been told very clearly that I was born sinful, continue to be sinful and it is ONLY by the grace of a merciful God that I have any hope of moving past my sin. So in essence- I find my value in God and use His standards as the measuring stick, not my own internal ones.
That is one of my favorite quotes. I think it is also key to any discussion a Christian has about their self image or self esteem. The more we make it about us, the more trouble we find.
"Low self esteem" doesn't exist. The truth is that no matter how unhappy we are with ourselves, we are still making it all about us. If anything, we put such a high value on what WE think about ourselves that we create an endless cycle of feeding our self vanity. It's the same problem as an narcissistic person just in a different twist.
My feeling is that I never want to "love" myself or think I'm the bees knees because as a follower of Christ- I've been told very clearly that I was born sinful, continue to be sinful and it is ONLY by the grace of a merciful God that I have any hope of moving past my sin. So in essence- I find my value in God and use His standards as the measuring stick, not my own internal ones.
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lone soldier
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I wake up everyday and see the wonder that is me. I appreciate myself for all I am, all I have been and all I can be. I acknowledge my unbound potential and accept the truth that I am loved, valued, important and special. I understand that God made me an individual, unlike any other and I take great satisfaction and joy in that fact. I rejoice because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, in the very image of Almighty God Himself. I like myself because I have learned how to intimately know myself, quirks and all.
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Just focus on loving others instead. I think God cares more about how we treat others than how we view ourselves.
Very wise. Loving yourself is a lot easier when you love others. And who knows, some of them might love back!
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